Lisa Kays
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SolaceSoulless :
Nailed it. We all need to work through our own process and decision making
2026-06-29 20:18:06
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Wendy | GLP-1 :
I also love your use of the word wisdom in relation to getting clarity of one’s own circumstances and experiences.
2026-06-29 22:59:19
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KarmakazeArt :
My therapist once said “don’t ‘should’ on yourself “. I misheard and said “shit on yourself?” No she said should, like “I should’ve done, should’ve said, should’ve finished, should’ve waited “ it is a way away from acceptance and away from affirming your choices & yourself
2026-07-02 16:38:02
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DahlFace❌️ :
yes. Timing is individual! I needed time to fully process my decision, start a little healing in advance and have financial resources to have stability for myself & children. I know people saw that it was an unhealthy relationship well in advance of the timing I chose for me to actually leave. I'm really glad I had support in staying as well as when I could finally take that leap!
2026-07-01 10:34:50
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Wendy | GLP-1 :
Absolutely loved that post about giving women space for clarity!!!!
2026-06-29 22:54:34
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smol-frog 🇨🇦🏳️🌈 :
It muddies Her truth. One of the important things is her finding clarity. Her knowing deeply that she has found Her correct course of action.
2026-07-02 14:15:27
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cll :
Funny- I was just thinking about something similar.. I am a few years out of a very toxic relationship and I remembered the time I found he was talking to another woman and I thought to myself "I should have left then" "how could I have been so stupid to stay" - and after grabbing those thoughts, I then said (out loud actually), at that time, I hadn't yet learnt what I needed to learn--- I believe that I did need to experience more of the relationship to be able to now see it clearly for what it was and be able to hold strong to my boundaries after things that happened later in the relationship... So, if you try to get someone to leave when they may have not yet hit their point of no return, it could just prolong things for them, or they may even enter another toxic relationship. I had 2 narcissistic relationships - I hadn't learnt what I needed to from the first. I'm loving your posts - insight is such a wonderful thing - once you are out of the relationship and have healed enough to have some clarity and have put yourself back together enough to feel strong ... Thank you... Oh, BTW your post on emotional r word has given me something to chew on
2026-06-30 04:14:12
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mmiddyvan :
It’s so complicated. On one hand I feel like the people who kept telling me to leave had no idea what i would have to deal with if I actually did (he made my and my kids life into a living nightmare through court system for years). But I also would have never realized he was abusing me if multiple counsellors didn’t point it out to me tell me it was bad enough that I should leave. Staying preserved the peace for my child for sure and leaving long term was the best for me but short term the stress was far higher than staying and just keeping the peace. None of the people telling me to leave had to live through the “after” and I think in giving that well intentioned advice if they knew what it would have been like for me they would have been a bit more careful in making that suggestion.
2026-06-29 20:36:50
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Melita’s Gardener :
My husband regularly does this and see it in my own behavior at times. I often see it as ingrained patriarchy.
2026-06-29 20:40:36
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Kristen :
I like to think of marriage as a system that produces the same results for women.
2026-06-29 22:14:49
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yarronrod :
“Nobody likes to be ‘should’ on”
2026-06-29 20:48:10
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Kate :
In my experience just with my friends, telling them that they deserve better and need to get out of the relationship never worked... one time. Usually they'd double down on it instead.
2026-07-01 12:56:48
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SolaceSoulless :
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2026-06-29 20:17:36
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2026-07-01 12:01:33
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