@pocket.psychologist: I'm a psychologist. Stop ignoring your anger. Here's what it's actually trying to tell you. 🧠 An iceberg only shows about 10% above the water. The rest (the part that actually sinks ships) is hidden underneath. Anger works the same way. It's the part everyone sees. Loud, obvious. The tip. But anger is a secondary emotion. It's almost never the first thing you actually feel. Underneath it, there's usually something far more vulnerable. Hurt. Overwhelm. Rejection. Fear. Shame… For a lot of people, anger feels safer than admitting any of that. Safer than saying "I feel hurt" or "I feel not good enough." It's also why telling someone to "calm down" rarely works. Anger isn't the problem. It's the protector, we guarding the softer feeling it doesn't want seen. So next time anger shows up, don't just ask why you're angry. Ask what's happening underneath it. 💛 Link in bio to my mini course with practical psychology tools you can actually use. 🧠

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Cosmic :

What books do you recommend reading ? It’s so confusing to know if we should heal our nervous system, or require our brain, or we just need to move our body, like what is it ?? How do we chnage our life

2026-06-23 18:49:39

anamaryescobedo :

Fear… (hidden behind anger)

2026-06-30 02:48:13

Swaps :

What would you suggest to those who have the inverse relationship with anger? Can you share strategies you would suggest to those who need to access anger as the justified primary emotion (e.g., boundary violations) when it was never safe to express and regulate anger safely? Many of us have to release unresolved and unexamined anger that lives below all of the internalized shame, guilt, grief, etc.

2026-06-25 14:33:40

vbar8140 :

So very true

2026-06-25 00:34:53

Peachu :

Thanks

2026-06-23 17:52:08

Julyduck :

@Viktoria:)

2026-06-23 18:45:11

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