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Ten years no contact. I just turned 46 yesterday and I cried bc I still don't know how to encounter my own self without the echo of their voices telling me what I'm allowed to feel.
2026-06-25 02:19:59
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Gospy :
I used to let the occasional good dinners or laughing at the TV together trick me into believing there was hope
2026-06-23 22:53:43
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Missikat77 :
As someone who went no contact for years and finally, recently had that parent die, my advice is get into deep intense therapy and move on with your life. They’re never going to change and it’s not your job as the child (no matter your age) to fix anything. You can’t ever be a good child to a bad parent.
2026-06-25 13:50:08
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Rachel :
I started to FINALLY like myself when I went low contact
2026-06-25 20:21:38
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sukariwins :
the fact that the child feels they need to reconcile and do the emotional labor, in order to have actual support = performance based acceptance, the labor was never supposed to be the child’s job … the support is supposed to be unconditional, given not earned
2026-06-25 05:41:33
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Jane Doe :
“You cannot understand your mother back into your life”
2026-07-06 22:09:57
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erosbehr :
I dont want the apology I want changed behavior
2026-06-26 17:57:15
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Faith :
every time I try to talk to my parents I just feel like this
2026-06-24 01:14:18
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ayanda.sam :
The apology will never come😭
2026-06-24 05:59:02
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🪐 Shon :
Get my parent back?? I never had her to begin with. She was never mine. Always hers
2026-06-26 16:20:30
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Rosa :
No contact is the best decision I’ve made with my father and family. Just leave and don’t circle the block.
2026-06-24 00:23:17
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tt :
Are you estranged? I have been reading a book called No Contact - Essays on Estrangement and it is such a touching read. “You cannot heal enough to create a relationship that requires another participant.” 🥲💕
2026-06-25 20:36:07
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KoaConstrictor :
It’s like my inner child is just so desperately yearning to be heard for once.
2026-06-25 13:47:53
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Mr. Lonely🩶 :
nope. rolling and scrolling it’s 3 am ian doin it rn
2026-07-04 07:03:22
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Spartansmama :
My parents apology went like this “I’m sorry! Ok! Now let it go! I apologized “ then continue exact same behavior. Been NC for 6 of the most peaceful years of my life. Heartbreaking yes but peace
2026-06-26 20:01:46
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JustK :
...Can't belive I heard something so valuable for free ..I feel like I should be charged a fee or something..this is too good lol
2026-07-13 05:55:04
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Devon O’Hara :
”Nothing’s quite enough when I know that to get it I begged.” - I will no beg so I am no contact
2026-06-25 18:14:44
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Florisela | Realtor :
“You cannot heal hard enough to create a relationship that requires another participant” i needed that.
2026-06-27 18:11:23
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Mashudu 🇿🇦 :
Living unreconciled but finally have immense peace. My mother never loved me and I’m finally okay with that, it brought me freedom. Finally stopped auditioning or hoping and from a good place. Took 5 years in therapy for this to finally click!
2026-06-24 04:09:59
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Tera Cline :
yes!!! the turning point for me was when I asked myself "would I accept this behavior from anyone else in my life?". the answer was no, I'd let go of friendships, romantic relationships for way less than what family has put me through. it was so freeing to realize that at some point, family members are just people that YOU get to decide whether you continue having a relationship with.
no one, including family, is guaranteed access to you.
2026-06-24 23:57:05
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Sugarwolf Clothing :
Im stuck & they have apologized but it didn’t make me want to talk to them. All those disappointments after hope do so much damage
2026-06-25 04:52:39
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𝖌𝖔𝖆𝖙𝖒𝖆𝖓 :
im tired.
2026-07-06 16:04:31
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Disfellowdipped :
Damn. This might be your best video
2026-07-07 18:25:56
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