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ash.se.rn :
My husband loves to debunk every single thing I bring up to prove he’s right and why I shouldn’t feel the way that I do. It got to a point where I stopped telling him when he hurt my feelings or when something bothers me. I want to leave him.
2026-06-25 12:50:59
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Tim :
I struggle, because I constantly feel like I’m being accused, so I need to defend. How to you approach things if you are constantly being accused?
2026-06-25 01:19:24
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S⚢ :
Once understanding happens, how do you handle the aftermath of wanting to further understand why the choices we made in the mindset we were in so we don’t repeat patterns?
2026-06-29 13:32:33
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Brandy :
My question is why does someone have to be right. This is something that I struggle with because feelings are not right or wrong. They’re just feelings. So I become frustrated with the concept of someone being Wright and someone being wrong in matters of.
2026-06-27 18:54:36
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Lyss :
He was so obsessed with being right that he lost me completely like I don’t speak to him anymore lol
2026-06-25 00:18:20
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Hiraeth Ad Astra ✨ :
Intention never negates Impact 💯
2026-06-24 04:59:47
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Dana Abe :
Keep explaining this. My husband found this impossible until I was ready to leave. So many marriages fail bc of this and it’s tragic
2026-06-23 22:22:08
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Kat :
so important that you keep speaking on this Scott. I have never met a man who had the emotional intelligence or capacity to hold space for me. I'm good at regulating myself but I want my partner to be able to understand, empathise and reassure me. I think this is impossible, men are not wired this way and have to put in the serious work to get there. So just like some men go silent when the going gets tough, women learn to stay silent and that disrupts or destroys connection
2026-06-24 02:33:50
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Bellinee :
He called (essentially) hearing my side and understanding it (without having to agree on it personally) as abandoning himself and his boundaries. How is ”oh I didnt know thats how you feel, i am sorry” any of that. My requests for healthy communication and resolvement were so little, but he acted like im asking something insane. Used all these ”I shouldnt sumbmit to you” -terms for something so little and normal what I was asking.
2026-06-24 05:21:48
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charlotte_exotic_spotter :
I wish I knew a lot of what you say 8-9 years ago. I could saved myself so much trouble and my wife so much less hurt and pain but I’m glad I still have a chance to fix things before it’s too late
2026-06-26 02:18:51
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𝕸𝖔𝖗𝖗𝖎𝖌𝖆𝖓 ⚔️ :
Don’t forget “that wasn’t my intention”
2026-06-28 04:57:33
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secyje :
Empathy is understanding. I wish more people realized empathy is more than just innate sympathy and requires skills. Emotional regulation, patience, humility, etc
2026-06-24 00:19:28
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Kelly :
Hiiii!!!!! So cool to see your psych content and that you have such a following!!! Soo long since Dr. McClure’s social psych class(I think that’s the one we had together.) Glad to see you’re doing well 😊
2026-06-23 22:07:31
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leena20211 :
I see this happening in relationships of all sorts, even in casual & more heated conversations online. I've always thought that in partnerships, you're discussing as a team rather than in competition with each other.
2026-06-23 22:30:59
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Neo :
Good reminder. Thank you
2026-06-25 17:00:30
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Virginia MT Shop :
He does that
2026-06-23 23:01:07
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chrissy_161 :
Wish I cld explain this
2026-06-25 07:17:55
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Ashley Baker :
Your content is THE best
2026-06-27 04:39:14
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helenwheeler985 :
I love your posts...so insightful and accurate!
2026-06-27 17:29:29
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surferbeerdrinker :
This is a two way street.
2026-06-26 04:37:47
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lifeinthefoodchain :
This requires both people to be listening and curious. Fully understand this perspective of acknowledging the feelings and being curious. Her position can be 100% based on a false narrative/facts, it is her lived experience. By acknowledging her experience as fact, does it not make your lived experience unimportant and force you to hide your own experience? This is compounded especially when she refuses to allow you to be understood.
2026-06-24 14:22:44
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purosalmi :
I don't even want him to validate my feelings. Fuck the feelings 😒 . I just want him to do his own part, step up, want to solve the concrete problems we have. Plan the future, better future. With me! But noooo! He just wants to talk about the emotions! How he feels guilty if I mention anything. Or how he feels pressure if I ask the solution for a problem. Or how I'm in the wrong emotions when I tell him what we should do and that is bossing him around and trying him to surrender....omg
2026-06-25 14:14:35
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Forestation :
wants to create that safe place for her.
2026-06-25 20:24:47
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TheAshleeRose :
This is relevant for women and friendships also
2026-06-25 13:27:59
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1111Sabine1111 :
What i always end up hearing from him is, "I have to validate your reality, so my reality doesnt ever matter or count".
2026-06-24 00:18:43
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