@thepottymouthguru: The more I learn about trauma, domestic violence, coercive control, childhood abuse, sexual violence, and nervous system responses, the more bizarre this becomes. We know trauma affects memory. We know people freeze. We know people fawn. We know people stay. We know abusive people are often charming, successful, funny, generous, attractive, and well liked. We know all of this. And yet survivors are still expected to behave in ways that trauma research has repeatedly shown are unlikely. Sometimes it feels like people aren’t looking for evidence. They’re looking for reasons not to believe. Let’s discuss. ❤️🤟🏻🌿 #Trauma #DomesticViolence #CoerciveControl #VictimBlaming #Psychology
The Pottymouth Guru
Region: CA
Tuesday 23 June 2026 22:17:41 GMT
Music
Download
Comments
Qwacky Qwack Qwack :
will never get over how Monica Lewinsky was treated.
2026-06-28 19:08:40
5
Jeanine Pfeiffer :
Thank you for this. Thank you. Thank you so very very VERY much. Gawddanggit so few people are speaking up for us like you do. ❤️💔
2026-06-25 07:14:49
4
REMA | REMASTER (THE WAY) :
Victim blaming is a form of silenciation. Thank You for your video 🌷
2026-06-28 20:38:45
1
Katie :
And even if they perform exactly like they want they still don’t get justice.
2026-06-24 21:47:16
5
Empathic Sight🇨🇦 :
Absolutely. Thank you. I work with survivors. And victim blaming just enhances the trauma
2026-06-28 07:57:46
2
Nytesong :
I had five lawyers during my divorce and escape from abuse. One fired me because I would not bend to being victimized through the court system. Another just dropped my case out of the blue and never told me why. The final lawyer told me at a meeting that I was not believeable. I died inside. I asked him how I was not believeable and was given no explanation. We finished our meeting. The next day he had a meeting with the reunification therapist team. They pulled an end run on him and then tag teamed him into a corner to coercive control the narrative of that conversation. I immediately got a call from him and was given an apology. He then fought a different fight for me. No one won this battle, not even the children. But what was recognized was the coercion and the behaviour of the other side. When in court the lawyer of opposition was creating distraction by behaving inappropriately and had to be told to stop by the judge a number of times until threat of removal happened. I knew then that the ex had nothing and that his lawyer knew there was nothing to do but collect his money. They asked the court that I pay all his fees for this action against me. Over $140,000. The court refused to make a single mother on disability pay for his BS. (on disability because of assults and abuse by the ex).My lawyer made sure of that. And finally none of my safety concerns were addressed. He lived across the street. I was allowed to have cameras pointing at his house and was put on 911 priority but that was all I got other than him ordered to not cross the road. It was a shit show of abuse through the system. I moved away and found my peace and healing.
2026-06-28 19:02:27
2
Hikey :
my uber driver went on an anti-cop tirad last night... I mentioned how cops helped out with moving once.... He said "Well thats a domestic dispute just walk away"
I am a DV survivor. I want to cancel so bad.
2026-06-27 23:57:24
1
Nifty ✨ NZ Audhd Creative Mess :
Yeah, it’s awful 😭
2026-06-24 22:09:00
2
myst :
Double bind society it looks,sound, is.🥺
2026-06-24 17:35:12
3
MrCrunchWaffle :
I have learned the harder way, participate, at all, as in reaction or response... Seriously be going around like I can't hear others 😅
2026-06-27 14:43:37
1
@TrueNorthFringe :
on point
2026-06-25 02:06:58
1
Leanne :
The counselling process alone is hard enough, retelling the events that took place even broadly can be re-traumatising. Then if you change counsellors or need see someone else, same again 🤦♀️
2026-07-11 04:35:33
0
Franklyannoyed29 :
I wish I didnt remember everything... its a blessing and a curse.
2026-06-29 05:29:01
0
Leanne :
I don’t believe the stats are correct so many victims don’t come forward and they may suffer multiple horrible events from multiple people…
2026-07-11 04:42:11
0
Kerry D 🇨🇦 :
🥰🥰🥰
2026-06-24 14:09:04
1
Mark Jacob :
👏
2026-06-25 01:17:59
1
Shante-Louise de Bee :
@Scars to Songs
2026-07-01 21:14:14
0
JustBeingTyler :
try being a male abused by a female...sheeesh
2026-06-25 10:37:57
1
Heidi Stodola :
abusive behavior has been idealozed in the US, to the point of it blamong a rampe victim for being raped. IT IS NOT THEIR FAULT! It also happens when police unalive black folx - "but they probably didn't comply so now they're dead" - so effed up.
2026-06-27 21:21:40
2
To see more videos from user @thepottymouthguru, please go to the Tikwm
homepage.