@teresondupuy: Were you held hostage by the connection? Because narcissistic people, emotionally avoidant people, and active addicts can all have one thing in common: They are disconnected from themselves. Disconnected from their own source. Disconnected from a stable source of love. Disconnected from the inner wholeness that would allow them to love without taking. So they make another person the source. They pull from your energy. Your attention. Your empathy. Your forgiveness. Your devotion. Your nervous system. And in the beginning, they may say all the things: “You’re the best thing that ever happened to me.” “I love you.” “I’ll never find anyone like you.” “You’re different.” “I don’t want to lose you.” And sometimes they mean it in the moment. But underneath, their nervous system may also be getting a chemical high from the connection. Dopamine. Oxytocin. Epinephrine. Validation. Novelty. Attention. The feeling of being wanted, rescued, adored, or emotionally fed. And once you are bonded, you start becoming the supply. But the minute you challenge them, ask for accountability, require presence, or need something real from them, the chemistry changes. You are no longer the source of the high. You become the mirror. You become the threat. You become the shame trigger. You become the person asking them to face what they are not ready to face. And that is often when they pull away, shut down, punish, discard, disappear, or go looking for a new source of dopamine, validation, and emotional escape. Meanwhile, you are already hooked. Already bonded. Already trying to understand. Already trying to get back to the version of them that made you feel chosen. This is why it can take years to get over one person. Not because you are weak. Because trauma bonds are not just emotional. They are chemical. They are psychological. They are spiritual. They are nervous-system loops that keep you reaching for the person who hurt you, hoping they will also be the person who heals you. But they cannot heal you. That part is yours. And the moment you stop trying to get love from the person who kept you starving, you begin to get your life force back. If you want to get out of the trauma bond loop and start finding wholeness after heartbreak, get my workbook, Finding Wholeness After Heartbreak, available with the link in my bio. #Heartbroken #Heartbreak #BrokenHeart #TraumaBond #Narcissism

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