@haileypaigemagee: Are you a: 1️⃣ Volunteer or Invite-only? 2️⃣ Asker or Guesser? 3️⃣ Builder or a Maintainer? Share this with your friends and learn their styles! ALL of these communication types have pros and cons; none is intrinsically better than any other. Problems arise when we expect that other people communicate the way we do— and develop resentments based on how we’re interpreting the meaning behind their communication. Share this with your friends to open a conversation about your different styles. If you have a strong preference for one style over the other, *tell the people close to you* so they can know what you need and meet you there! 👉 Watch Boundaries 101 for the Recovering People-Pleaser (at the 🔗 in b i o) for step-by-step guidance on communicating your needs and preferences in your relationships. #MentalHealth #communication #boundaries #friendship #psychology
i'm an asker while asking, but a guesser while being asked
2026-06-26 16:18:44
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Elio★ :
I’ve heard these before, but about the second one, esp as a neurodivergent person, I refuse to make my question dependent on what I’d assume the other person to say. It’s not my business and on top of that, I could just totally interpret the situation wrong. Maybe the other person would love to let me sleep on their couch, but I’ve never asked, only cause I thought they’d say no. Also, it’s giving people pleasing. It’s like assuming the other person isn’t able or comfortable enough in our relationship to say no or set boundaries.
2026-06-26 12:05:31
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TenaciousC :
I LOVE volunteers and askers. I like both builders and maintainers
2026-06-26 12:45:35
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ImCarrots :
this was very enlightening, very well said, thanks a lot !!
2026-06-25 19:40:25
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cathlupo :
Yeah. I'm definitely a volunteer and recovering adder. I used to see me volunteering information as a way to invite the other person to also feel they can volunteer information. That doesn't always work 😅 I'm definitely a guesser, but wish more people would ask for things as I like to help where I can.
2026-06-26 14:15:33
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