@kristen1942: Women-work on being less nice and less helpful #fyp #women #patriarchy #boundaries #truth

sashamariesanders :

Wish I would have learned this at age 8 instead of 38

larakasza :

As a psychotherapist, I teach this to Therapists who can then support their female clients - thank you! And thank you for sharing your story. I appreciate - and learn - so much for you.💖

user011455688 :

I dont smile anymore

🥰🥳🥃Katie :

Please how do I do this with my parents? Zero boundaries and I am 45!

Jessica :

Yes! It’s so hard for me to sit back and just watch things happen when I see what I perceive to be someone else struggling or even suffering. Something as simple as watching someone have a hard time opening a jar when I know an effective strategy, up to much bigger things, if I know I have something to offer, I just offer it, even when I know it won’t be well received, it’s reflexive.

Brightskies :

i'm so grateful for this perspective, which I've seen across a few posts recently. I never considered i was being too nice and helpful, and I could just stop ✋️and be myself. I think we can be kind when it is needed, nice when you want to be, but not automatically nice and helpful, beyond our boundaries. I am particularly aware now about my forced smile that I constantly wear, and how ridiculous that conditioning is, like im a permanent customer service consultant in social interactions. I might never have had this perspective on my behaviour if we didnt have people like you sharing these videos. thank you.

Ozla :

im bout to get a whole lot meaner.

dinapastina :

I am kind. I am not nice.

Shan Shine :

I am working on this and I have to say it gets easier the more cognizant I am of my instinctual tendencies. My neighbor was my first test subject and I can’t tell you how empowered I felt telling her NO. She responded with a shocked look. Yes! 🙌

Steampunkcloan :

Every single man that has a problem with me at my business gets the exact same energy back and they hate it!!!!

Wubzy👾 :

Wait this is for me. Thank you

Cosmometry :

I’m tired of default politeness when I don’t feel like it but it’s hard to break

theannapawlitan :

I want to be kind. But i am not nice 😂 and I don't give a damn what anyone thinks. I just got to a point at a certain age. One day, it just clicked! I am not for everyone and I am fine with that.

Alaura a sewing :

My first husband threatened to kill me and the kids and I put up with that for so long and looking back it makes me crazy but yes, I am working on and it is very hard for me to stop being so nice with my mom being better with boundaries

Ashley M. Kennett :

This is the hardest for me to do

ELILILY🏳️‍🌈💗 :

being mean feels amazing when you use it correctly

M A R I E :

Same, Kristen! And I’m so thankful for you on this platform helping to educate the masses of women. It’s very much needed and appreciated!! 💜💜💜

TheNarcAssistCorner :

The.Secure.Woman | Audrey :

And when you do, some women around are also going to push back because “how dare you being less nice and less helpful when I’m always nice and helpful”

Cowgal2599 :

Really needed to hear this today. He meant what he said and don’t forget it.

susanaismo :

no more peoplepleasing

kinicka1155 :

A lot of smart ladies get in this situation

inmytravelsfrance :

I wish you could accompany me when I head to France

Toni Perry :

It should be all people that conditioned to be be nice !

june08345 :

I totally agree with you.