@elly.psychologist: If you're thinking about giving someone another chance, these three questions are worth being really honest with yourself about, especially if you've been in a toxic relationship with this person for a while. The first is whether they've genuinely taken accountability, not just said sorry, but actually shown that they understand what they did and how it affected you. Because in a toxic relationship, apologies often sound convincing without actually taking any real responsibility. "I didn't mean it like that" is not the same as "I see how much that hurt you and that's on me." The second question is whether this has happened before. If it has, zoom out and look at the pattern across the whole toxic relationship, not just this one incident. Patterns are the most honest thing a relationship can show you, and once something keeps repeating, that's the information you need to be working with, not the apology. The third question is whether you're paying attention to their words or their behaviour. This is the big one. People in toxic relationships can be incredibly charming after they've caused harm. They know what to say to get you to come back. But real change only ever shows up in behaviour over time, not in what someone says when they're trying to win you back. Stop listening to the words and start watching what actually happens. That's where the truth of a toxic relationship always lives Official accounts and resources: www.ellyanastasiades.com #relationshiptok #toxicrelationship #toxic #relationshiptips #relationshipproblems

Elly | Counseling Psychologist

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