Opallauryn
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sasha.grizai :
Not to mention repeated cheating and what it does to your mental state
2026-06-26 15:36:42
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Politics&Planning :
Financial abuse
2026-06-26 19:56:46
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Karina |-/ :
As a fellow licensed therapist, keep speaking your truth!! Cheating is betrayal and trauma, it is abuse of someone’s trust . Sending love and hugs to you on your healing journey ❤️
2026-06-28 17:04:22
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⋆౨ৎ˚⟡˖ ࣪ Simone .𖥔 ݁ ˖ :
“Because we cannot recognize the spectrum everything exists on” is very powerful. This idea should be explored more because it really does affect every aspect of how people experience the events that happen in their lives. I don’t know if you know the quote “the same water that hardens the egg softens the potato” but I think that can explain the people who try to explain your own life to you like you haven’t lived it. Really just being a little more understanding would go so far, thank you for sharing !
2026-06-26 23:05:38
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sam 🍓 :
thank you for speaking out 🫶🏻
2026-06-27 01:06:07
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Acey :
There’s so many people that will look at what a loved one is going through and call that harmful, but not recognize the intensity of the same thing that happened to them :(
2026-06-27 17:17:16
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Opallauryn :
Your story is safe with me, no matter where it falls on the spectrum ❤️🩹
2026-06-26 15:19:10
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Rain :
This was validating. Thank you.
2026-06-26 22:56:28
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_bat.wings_ :
Thank you for speaking on this, i feel very heard and seen right now. I see and hear you too
2026-06-27 02:46:41
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It’s me Michelle Lee :
I love your content, you articulate the feelings in a very understanding way. You should be a therapist!! 💚
2026-06-26 15:49:22
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Dani | Trauma & OCD therapist :
Omg thank you for speaking on this topic!!
2026-06-26 16:53:49
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Kait | Fragrance & Self Care :
These are very important conversations to have! Love your take, thank you for sharing 🫶🏼
2026-06-26 21:28:17
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🐚🌊La Muñeca🐚🌊 :
You’re correct about it all one hundred 💯 cien por ciento 💯
2026-06-26 21:00:29
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ChantellBlayne✨ :
I’m so proud of you. Thank you for sharing your experience with us. It has been so helpful.
2026-06-28 15:30:45
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Belly Magic :
I love your content, it's so validating. Thank you.
2026-06-26 18:02:32
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Emily | Eating and Roaming :
Emotional/mental abuse is just so incredibly insidious. With physical abuse, often there are bruises and scars and - there are just so many hard lines that a lot of people understand. The mental and emotional kind, though, is often inflicted by people who are great talkers, very charming, etc. so it’s just really easy to doubt yourself and also really hard, often impossible, to convince others that you’re being abused and need help. Because the abuser is just so good at making themselves be loved/adored by their family, friends, colleagues, etc. and so good at convincing everyone that the victim is just being crazy or unreasonable. Obviously physical abuse is more immediately life-threatening from a physical safety perspective, but other types of abuse do grave harm as well, especially over time.
2026-06-26 15:36:22
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! :
i also think people don’t want to admit what all is included in abuse bc then they’d have to admit that either they have been abused by someone or they themselves have been abusive
2026-06-26 17:42:37
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katymustang20 :
A lot of people who have experienced domestic violence often state that yes obviously the violence was painful but the damage from the mental and emotional abuse was worse and had a longer lasting impact
2026-06-26 15:53:47
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Iman | othertonesmusic :
As an abuse survivor who was cheated on in that dynamic, I just think there needs to be much more nuance than to say outright that “cheating is abuse.” Abuse speaks to a sustained dynamic of dominance in a relationship, in which a power differential exists, and a broader pattern of manipulation, deception and harm exists as well. Cheating is extremely traumatic for the person who is betrayed of course, and does rewire that person’s sense of reality and trust among many other things. I know that on the emotional abuse angle, cheating gives the person who’s doing the betrayal access to a version of reality that is different than the person they’re betraying, and they can’t make informed choices about their life and autonomy without that information that’s being withheld from them. Similarly, if it’s physical cheating, the person didn’t consent to having sex with someone after they had sex with another person, which may let cheating fall under sexual abuse. What gets really tricky is that in some cases, someone can be a terrible person with poor impulse control, communication skills, and empathy, but they didn’t carry out an effort to control or dominate someone (even unconsciously) by executing their act of betrayal. Cheating absolutely can be a form of abuse, and can contribute to a larger picture of abuse, but I personally don’t think it’s accurate to say that it is always abuse no matter the context in which it occurs.
2026-06-26 21:45:34
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E :
Cheating absolutely can be abuse, and depending on what happened it can be physical abuse (e.g. unprotected sex putting their partner at risk for STIs)
2026-06-26 21:51:46
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Cbug 🐞✝️🥓 :
Would you consider consistently flirting with others while barely interacting and being rude to your partner abuse? That’s what I went through
2026-06-26 22:32:45
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𝘕𝘪𝘴𝘦𝘺 💜✨⁷ :
I’m five months out of a trauma bond where coercive control was frequently used. I didn’t realize it until after I had left once, went back and then left again. The emotional abuse I went through was so subtle. Now I’m working in various ways to heal, regulate my nervous system and get back to myself.
2026-06-27 01:05:57
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Jay Carson :
the worst recovery ive had from an abusive relationship was with the person that manipulated me so much, he had me convinced I needed to be heavily medicated and had a personality disorder despite him cheating on me multiple times and controlling every aspect of my life but he didnt hit me
2026-06-26 22:54:52
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thedemanda :
I feel ridiculous when I tell people that I am close to that I was abused because it wasn’t physical. They can’t see any scars or bruises or broken bones so it must not have been real abuse. My last relationship I was mentally, emotionally and financially abused. I loved that man so much that I didn’t recognize the manipulation and the lies until I was on the other side. He took over 100k from me and all along I thought it was true love. I can’t believe I let it go on that long and I hate the way it has made me feel about myself and who I am.
2026-06-26 19:09:55
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🏳️⚧️🐾﹒jupiter / hyacinth ☆﹕ :
my abuser was never physically violent (aside from coercive assault) , and it often makes me feel "invalid" and second guess myself. i know logically what happened was abuse, but sometimes i see the things people went through and it makes me question if maybe im just lying or dramaticizing things . its absolutely awful. i would also say this mentality affects the spectrum of SA too. i see a LOT of people say coercive assault, fawn responses , and things that "make the lines blurry" are invalid and that we're just making it seem "worse than it really is." people think that you have to be violently harmed , physically changed , or whatever else to be a "real survivor" and its genuinely hurting such a huge part of people who have in fact been SA'd. my earlier thoughts regarding my emotional abuse also apply to my personal experience with coercive assault, i constantly doubt myself and question my reality ; and im honestly scared to share my experiences because what if someone decides to say that im just lying ? i wish people would educate themselves better instead of trying to play perfect victim :(
2026-06-28 03:36:09
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