@growwithkaela: A DA loves you at the only capacity they know. And that capacity is limited not by how much you mean to them, but by how little they know themselves. Dismissive avoidants were emotionally neglected as children, which translated to them that they must be defective and therefore unlovable. So they created a persona that grew over the years based on external validation, while overshadowing their true, authentic self. You can't offer depth to someone else that you've never accessed within yourself. And you can't offer the kind of love you've never allowed yourself to receive.