Grow with Kaela
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Friday 26 June 2026 15:42:09 GMT
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Sarah De Los Santos :
This absolutely feels like my husband. He has that type of childhood trauma. He’s a good guy, and loves me the best way I think he knows how. It’s devastating because it still not nearly enough. Almost no deep emotional connection, warmth or touch. I don’t feel cherished or desired. I feel barely tolerated.
2026-08-09 06:13:22
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CeliaUrsula :
Can they change though? Our core fight for almost a decade has always been me feeling he is not emotionally deep enough. Intimate enough. He doesn’t analyze where he’s gone wrong or why something happened. It’s like he can’t go there. He can’t even watch sad movies. He doesn’t like to be vulnerable. As a result I shut down. I match his energy. He says “you knew who I was when you married me” and “I can’t change. IT’s like me asking you to be less emotional.”
2026-07-16 04:12:07
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KelvinSaints :
How I feel after dealing with a dismissive avoidant for over a year
2026-06-26 18:45:26
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Althea :
my dismissive avoident had weaponised incompetence and I had no choice but to carry the mental, financial and emotional load for 25 years. i finally walked away this year... i am 42 now with 4 young adult kids. everyone talks about the DAs independence... my ex was anything but independent. I thought if I did more, he would step up... my tank ran empty and I am finally free! the thing is that I am afraid to get into another relationship!
2026-07-20 21:10:30
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mw_piper :
This describes my husband exactly. I do feel he loves me but I also feel he's at his capacity. I wish it was more.
2026-06-29 11:28:56
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user8332439140027 :
My DA claimed to be the most self reflective person she knows
2026-08-11 19:27:35
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Kate :
My husband and I just started couples therapy for this last week. Wish us luck...
2026-06-26 23:50:54
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Jae Carbon :
“Capacity” is so accurate and it fcks me up so hard 🫠
2026-07-06 02:33:42
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wendyaug :
But why can they show it in the begining of the relationship and than they cut it off just like that?
2026-07-22 22:25:14
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lorybrown :
Exactly how you said. I'm the complete opposite and feel broken for not running away before feeling so deeply involved. I realize after 8 years that this person has no clue of what love really means... All that counts for him are HIS need and HIM SELF. I had no idea people like that existed. No feelings at all. Just surface.
2026-08-07 16:39:59
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Dru308surgeon :
Avoid dismissive avoidants, got it
2026-08-02 07:25:07
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Kilian :
He loved me more than anyone but his capacity never increased because he would deactivate the minute he felt any discomfort.
2026-07-13 03:26:49
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xxxooooxx1 :
Nothing surface level about their love, yes they wounded, but you talking like they manipulating intentionally… they are not
2026-08-11 10:58:48
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Gubben I Lådan :
Then they will dump ur ass and rebound to the next and blame you for the entire relationship.
2026-08-08 11:04:26
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Allen Chouinard :
so true. she literally had me doubting my own value
2026-06-28 20:11:14
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Chrissy Diluglio :
It’s so sad for them
2026-06-27 02:24:13
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Nadi Zadeh :
Exactly you are right this was my story with him
2026-06-28 20:18:08
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zog :
This hit so hard The healing continues. Thank you
2026-06-30 00:18:03
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murrayjohnson4170 :
understanding all of this, but damn the discard sucks
2026-07-02 10:29:24
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Thismustbetheplace :
Damn. . Just when I was getting hopeful that I could find a way to make it work with her, this shows up and is her to the t.
2026-07-29 02:03:26
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Fadia Abu Samra :
ja
2026-06-28 22:21:04
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Shannon Brown :
Am I the only one who wishes they could just open their brain and flip a switch. To have them instantly full of capacity, emotional intelligence and vulnerability. Ughhh if only
2026-10-26 11:48:21
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missy putnam :
There are SO many of these jokers! I just can't believe this all stems from childhood neglect. Let's consider Gen X latchkey kids, children who experienced World Wars, etc. with parents who were doing all they could to raise them, Depression Era children, too. Many children of large families were seen and not heard and were fine through it. In huge families children were raised by their older siblings. I wonder what the alternative theories might be.
2026-08-12 23:12:39
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BigDaddyBritt :
we can only give what's given. we open ourselves, get hurt, then shut down
2026-07-10 23:45:25
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