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i think the biggest issue here is safety, not whether or not someone technically qualifies to use a physical facility. because if the latter was actually the argument, then even men should be about to use womens bathrooms and maybe urinals shouldn't exist as both sexes are perfectly able to use a sit down toilet, hence no need for anything else or any separation. but thats not the point. the point is whether or not its going to be safe for people, and to me, its not a very hard question to answer. think about this: would you feel more comfortable with a father bringing his daughter into the womens or mens room? both have sit down toilets. the facility isnt the issue. and would you be more comfortable with a mother bringing her son into the womens or the mens room? typically, people will choose the womens room. we understand that an exception should be made for the presence of a male in a female space as it provides safety for the female who he is taking care of. and we understand that sometimes, a mother who does not feel secure in leaving her child alone will bring him with her into the womens room to help and watch over him. and even if it makes the other people in the bathroom a bit uncomfortable, we wouldn't force the mother into the men's room though we might still say that she needs to teach the boy to go by himself to the mens room. overall, the consensus is that women in our society are typically more understanding, more level-headed, and less likely to be violent or predatory due to the social dynamics and expectations we've been conditioned to follow our entire lives. because of that, trans people, especially trans women, are very likely to be more safe in the womens room than the mens which is a very important factor. some women may be uncomfortable with that, but being uncomfortable is not nearly as horrible as risking being the victim of physical and sexual violence. on top of that, most trans people will go to the bathroom that matches the gender they pass as. which means that a cis woman who sees a trans woman enter the womens room should not feel uncomfortable at all because she has no reason to think someone of the "wrong" sex has entered.
2026-07-31 23:05:41