Tell The Bees
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daisy :
My parents have helped me SO much. I can’t imagine having a kid and not wanting to help care for them forever, not just 18 years. We never had a ton, but I was raised to think of resources as communal. We enjoy helping each other.
2026-06-26 23:56:55
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Linnette V. :
Marked safe because my parents are broke. 🥰
2026-06-26 22:55:17
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moon <3 :
i disagree with this take. we didn’t ask to be born. our parents were irresponsible for having us when they didn’t have the financial means to take care of us, and for that it is normal to resent them.
2026-06-26 23:36:02
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Whitney Weaver :
Struggling to thrive is different than struggling to survive. I’d never forgive my parents if they had 3 homes and I couldn’t stay in any of them after getting laid off. I’d also never expect them for a down payment for my own home.
2026-06-27 13:29:17
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Kellyjxn.95 :
I agree that adults shouldn’t be expecting anything from their parents but I do understand the resentment that if you are trying to do something like buying a house and your parents are sitting on the means to help you short term (in my mind you pay them back) and basically everyone you knew also got help from *their* parents to get houses I see the resentment. Not saying it’s right tho
2026-06-26 22:15:17
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alexamichellemcke :
I’m curious how many of the parents were given the down payment for their first home by their parents in the 70s/80s. That’s true for my parents, but they never felt like they should do the same for us. Even though they are significantly better off than my grandparents ever were. My dad loves to tell me how much I’ll get when he dies, but doesn’t want to help in any way while he’s here. It’s a weird setup imo.
2026-06-26 23:13:54
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rafa | DNAP, CRNA :
i would be mad if my parents had boats and i could barely afford groceries lol
2026-06-27 18:14:40
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Em :
Wait I’m confused — parents should help their financially struggling kids + not just with the bare minimum needed to survive. And vice versa. We should all be helping each other to thrive/not just survive. What am I missing?
2026-06-27 03:40:53
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KingBeryl :
What’s the point of even being wealthy if you’re not gonna help out the people closest to you?
2026-06-27 18:56:20
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anniehurston :
I don't hate my parents, but it was hard that my younger siblings got help with college and I didn't? It's just basic fairness.
2026-06-26 22:51:53
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82735j352928i :
I think part of being a good parent is helping your kids get a leg up, especially as the world changes. I want each generation of progeny to do better than the last. I plan to help my children get financially ahead in life just as my parents did for me.
2026-06-27 03:20:16
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murielle.006 :
I agree with your take in general, but I get the sibling thing. I’ve not read the origjal story, but being resentful that your sibling got every opportunity in life while you had to struggle is valid. Why was the first child born into a situation without sufficient funds? Why were they not worthy of financial preparation?
2026-06-26 22:49:41
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boil_taylor :
As someone who does resent that my siblings got better parents than I did, that's a normal reaction. Like, being mad your parents chose to have a child they couldn't afford, and therefore failed to provide for your needs, but then lavish younger siblings later in life is normal & financial stability is something people should consider before popping out babies. I don't feel entitled to the things they have now, but I'm also not going to be afraid to voice my discontent that my sister got a two week trip to Texas for graduating high school while all I got was a "good job" & empty promises and that I took out loans, opened a credit card for emergencies, & got a campus job for college but my mom sent my sister with my mom's credit card & signed off on her loans.
2026-06-27 16:10:05
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ayybayybayy3 :
If my parents had boats and multiple homes but didn’t help me financially when I needed it I’d be pissed as well. As a parent, I’d never let my kids suffer like that. I wouldn’t be matching our lifestyles but I’d make sure they were good no matter the age.
2026-06-27 13:02:57
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Yessir :
I’m a single mom. I don’t own a house, but I sure as hell will help my daughter buy a house if she wants to. Or help her pay her bills. I brought her into this situation(life), I see it as my responsibility to help her as long as I live.
2026-06-27 12:53:02
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gayle :
I can’t imagine having the means to live lavishly, knowing someone in my family is struggling, and not offering some form of support. That feels fundamentally at odds with how I think about family. That’s weird.
2026-06-28 01:17:29
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DPR Donuts 🆘🇺🇲🏳️🌈 :
jealousy and resentment are normal human emotions. feeling them and processing them means talking about them. it's only a problem when it becomes harmful behavior
2026-06-27 09:23:33
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calla222 :
This is an interesting take and I have a completely different one despite maybe similar backgrounds! As a child of immigrants, my parents are very pull yourself up by your bootstraps oriented BUT they do see their money as a shared resource. So, if lending me $20K more would save me $200k later (as in the girl buying a house in the article), they would completely do that because that, to them, is a net 180K savings for everyone. This is especially true because they expect some sort of caretaking from their kids as they age.
2026-06-28 06:46:05
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🐇 :
Idk i can totally understand ppl being resentful of their siblings getting a better childhood than them. Whether that be monetarily or emotionally. Also, many people expect they kids to help take care of them as they age, might be best to also help them if you are able
2026-06-28 05:29:47
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Christo Aivalis, PhD Historian :
my parents didn't have much but gave me everything they could. I have more than them. I would be a terrible father and son if I don't do the same for MY child
2026-06-27 06:37:30
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hazham :
I’m Gen X and I’d help my kid get a house before I’d buy a yacht, but maybe that’s because it’s all very hypothetical for me 😅
2026-06-27 03:02:14
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heatherchoi3 :
What are your thoughts on the reverse? Parents expecting their offspring to be their financial safety net as they age.
2026-06-26 22:45:01
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✨️🛩🌏 :
Where I'm from, student loans & grants are based in your parents' income. So through uni I had to work full-time night shifts at McDonald's and ruin my credit for survival because every year I got a letter saying I was getting $0.00 because "a large parental contribution is expected". 🙃 At that time there was also a 30% off tuition credit if your household made below like $150k. So because of their income I had to pay 30% higher tuition on my McDonald's wages.
2026-06-27 18:29:39
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shelb :
my parents are letting me be homeless 🙂
2026-06-26 22:35:41
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shrimpsinmyeyes :
I think this is very much a cultural thing, I’m italian and my parents are constantly trying to pay for things for me even though my husband and I don’t need it. they just like to do it. both them and my in-laws gave us 50k (euros) for our down payment for our home, my dad literally said “what am I going to do with this money, keep it until I’m dead?” of course they are enjoying their retirement, going on holidays and all that, I would never expect them not to in order to help me. my daughter is just a toddler now but I already know I wouldn’t be able to live “””lavishly””” while she struggles with money when she’s older. (that being said we’re 100% financially independent and don’t need help, helping with a down payment is quite standard for parents who can afford it)
2026-06-27 06:45:01
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