@beccasday: This is one of the biggest mindset shifts that helped me heal my anxious attachment. The goal isn’t to find someone who can reassure you enough. It’s to become someone who no longer relies entirely on external reassurance to feel safe. Because no matter how much someone loves you, if your core wounds are still running the show, your anxiety will always find another reason to doubt it. #anxiousattachment #abandonmentwound #relationshipanxiety #attachmentstyles #anxiousattachmentstyle
I was told to sit in the uncomfortableness of it. I don’t ask him about anything, I don’t double text or call, I call my friend and talk through it. Any gap in communication or delay in response can make me super spiral and the poor guy will either be working or napping. We’re also 6 hours apart, so that feeds the anxiety, too. Some days are harder than others, but I have to remind myself of the evidence against what my anxiety is telling me is happening. It’s SO hard.
2026-06-28 23:23:26
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ash (spokeishere's version) :
this is genuinely an awesome timing, I'm like this even in non-relationship bonds with the person I am the closest to and really attached to and I want to GENUINELY work on this and not let myself nor my fears destroy the dearest bond I have. It really gets so bad sometimes I start overthinking everything, seeking for reassurance but find myself overthinking again and I'm worried about draining them, which is something I don't want for them cause I care a lot about this person. I really just need to let my thoughts slow down, cause I tend to think a lot that there's something wrong when there isn't and they are actually here, appreciate me and nothings's off unlike I end up (over)thinking. Needed that post tbh
2026-07-03 05:03:30
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Marcus Potts :
Gods timing
2026-06-28 00:03:30
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❤✝Shanon✝❤ :
it is as if the anxiety makes me angry at him for no reason and then i regret it later and feel bad.he doesnt deserve this.
2026-06-27 18:54:22
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Sterling :
YES 100 percent. It’s miserable. My therapist explained that I subconsciously sabotage relationships by getting attached too quickly and becoming clingy early on. It’s like my mind tries to “test” things by asking: If I can’t handle the thought of losing you now, how would I ever handle losing you years down the line? Because of that, I tend to fall in love too fast. The moment someone shows me a little affection, I latch on. In a way, it’s like I’m trying to get the heartbreak over with early. I used to think this was just because I didn’t receive much love growing up which is true but now I understand it more clearly as a defense mechanism. Ironically, the very behavior meant to protect me from heartbreak is often what ends up pushing people away and causing it.
2026-07-01 09:14:54
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user385591777 :
The reason why we broke up. We both had unresolved trauma from our upbringing. We trauma bonded but she had a better way of dealing with hers I didn’t. I would project so bad bc I was scared to lose her and still did. That’s my fault
2026-06-29 05:56:33
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kaitlyn! :
i asked for a sign. i think this is it.
2026-06-29 00:36:55
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Sheena Martin :
I'm just struggling to figure out how to do that in a way that doesn't cause me to feel like I am dying.
2026-06-27 21:17:49
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Cristie :
God's timing is always right 💜 i'm working on it because he deserves the best parts of me, not the anxious parts.
2026-07-01 06:12:00
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Kaycee🖤♏️ :
Ohhh i needed this
2026-07-01 04:24:57
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nashy :
wow, how beautifully put
2026-06-29 15:40:55
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Tatum Thrower :
We broke up Sunday because of this but he took me back quickly after now I have new fears he’ll leave again…
2026-06-29 16:51:33
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Deyana :
Im tired of always reassuring myself? Im tired of the patterns too…
2026-06-28 01:15:23
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Dua.x :
I feel so warm that I finally figured out that what I needed was me
2026-06-30 02:01:15
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Yndira Marie Pifferr :
I needed this
2026-06-30 22:25:26
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John Wick (THT) :
too late
2026-06-28 17:36:32
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karencampbell109 :
How 😭
2026-06-28 09:45:58
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princessannalyssa :
Ugh🤧
2026-06-29 09:03:46
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fiorella ✿ :
Gods timing oh my
2026-06-28 22:05:18
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⭐️🪩Zephyr🫧✨️ :
thank you
2026-06-28 14:37:28
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Dani V🩵 :
I just lost the love of my life..because of this. I will never recover
2026-06-27 23:01:12
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💀Nicholas Smith💀 :
I really needed this today. Thank you.
2026-07-02 01:43:01
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castillo_ian :
Never been more broken in my life
2026-06-28 23:34:15
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user8326059559796 :
Seeing this 4 days too late. If only I could go back 😭
2026-06-27 18:07:51
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