@beyondthebruise: Pay attention to how they react when you express pain. That's who they really are… #d#dvsurvivor#narctok#narcissisticabuse #breakthecycle

user3688787422335578900 :

What if it’s inconsistent? Some days are understanding and some days are defensiveness. Is it because we’re all human or is it more calculated? 🫩

Black and Co :

I got told “ your not perfect “ as if that had anything to do with what hurt me

nattiedabaddie_ :

I always ended up apologizing when I brought up something that bothered me

WillUThink2x :

I got a blank stare

❌ReformedGenX🐠❌ :

Exactly!!!! Or they respond with “well you did this…” so hurtful. 💔

ElliesOneMoreTime; 🐈‍⬛ :

"well I must be the worst person in the whole world then" 😏

Notyourtypicalboomer :

Except i DO sometimes feel like i can’t do anything right.

☺️ :

Wait a minute the 2nd one sounds like my ex

Vanessa 🦋 :

Unfortunately I married this person because “most” of the time he was so kind and fun. I left when I realized we were modeling a toxic loving relationship for our kids. They deserve authentic, healthy love. We ALL do if we show up with an open heart! 💕

Bonbomy Yak :

Yessss😭😪😔

timewert637 :

Wow very good! Thanks

Victoria Grace :

Yes!

MammaMooseAK :

Exactly!! Spot on!

susanaismo :

they get cold and silent

martyandkrystal1989 :

in 36 years I never received a reaction if I told him that something bothered me let alone of any reaction.

Piano Princess Norah :

german7077 :

yes

Messenger*Martinez :

Yes

Hemi ヘミゼニ :

they deny it

Doug :

I got the “why are you so mean??”

b.e.z96 :

I feel like the script gets flipped. In the beginning of our relationship, I would always apologize and take ownership over the things that I did wrong that hurt her feelings, but some of those times where I hurt her feelings, I was genuinely shocked because we’d be having a normal conversation, like if I disagreed with her. Honestly, even if I agreed with her and got excited to share my thought she’d get upset with me. She already knows what I’m saying, and she would be offended at the thought that I needed to share my ideas too because she already knew them. Eventually, the arguments became very wide ranged and very often over small disagreements, or if somebody else (not even me) left a fork in the water in the kitchen sink. In the end, I apologize for a lot of things overtime, but whenever I tried to bring up things that hurt my feelings genuinely… Regardless of the time, including if I made sure that it was a convenient time to talk, she would fight me and make me feel like crap. I always felt like I was being judged and rated every day on how I was as a person and a boyfriend. I started anxiety if I needed a break from doing chores for a night because I did them every day and often with no help. and at time should be upset with me for days on end sometimes like a week or two so whenever I try to talk with her, she be upset because I’m making about myself when she’s upset with me. I never had room to express how I felt when I was hurting. But I heard everything that she said that I did in our relationship that would hurt her or bother her and I worked on it and fixed a lot of those things that took a while like picking up the dog bowls right away after I’m done feeding them since I also had to walk them and feed the cats too. And she would always make me feel like such a terrible person. Last week I tried to reschedule an interview because she asked me to take her car in. She sent me a link to the auto shop. I clicked on it and called the number got a quote and drove to the location on the Google link. Somehow someway that link called a completely different shop so our quote was with a different shop altogether, she was furious I ruined her plans.

TaYlor MaYd :

Though I find value in this page and others like it. I find value in the nuance of trying to understand the narcissistic mind. I think it would be better explained as this…narcissists are not good people at their core. Period

Ambertje :

He thinks im the narcissist

Katieafton🍓 :

“I don’t remember that” 🙄

Victoria Grace :

I always always always ended up being the one who apologized.