@zevinclark: Some people are not addicted to misery because they love pain. They are addicted because their nervous system confused familiar suffering with survival. That is why peace can feel suspicious when chaos is all you have known. That is why help can feel threatening when pain has become part of your identity. That is why some people do not receive solutions, they interrogate them. They are not always rejecting the answer. Sometimes their body is protecting the version of them that learned how to survive without it. Healing is not just changing your thoughts. It is teaching your body that safety does not have to feel like stress, love does not have to feel like anxiety, and peace does not have to feel boring. At some point, you have to ask yourself a hard question: am I trying to get free, or am I just looking for better language to justify the prison? The scariest part about healing is realizing you may be defending the same chaos your soul is begging to escape.
Used to be me. It was developed as protection from trauma, abandonment, and disappointment as a child and I struggled to release it as an adult. I was absolutely afraid of hope.
2026-06-29 17:46:31
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Regina :
👏👏👏 👏👏👏👏👏👏JUSTIFICATION instead of accountability. Accountability equals responsibility and that may require the need for a change in behavior.
2026-06-27 20:39:32
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Marissa Alayne :
I found out that stress was my life and I was using a toxic form of it to move forward and get stuck... once I finally realized that stress was my motivator I found a way to have ot without ruining my life... I didn't stress about money anymore because I swapped it for doing the the dishes and making dinner at the same time... I modified my addiction to stress... instead of the stress of running late to work I forced myself to wake up earlier and have the stress of driving the speed limit. I know it sounds silly but my life has been moving forward and getting better once I realized i was in control of my definition of what stress really is.
2026-06-28 15:04:45
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eileen🤎 :
Ok, now tell us how to break the loop.
2026-06-28 07:42:19
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Mike :
I just opened the phone 😭😭😭
2026-06-28 14:16:38
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Mandy :
So how to quit this cycle 😭😭😭
2026-06-27 20:38:44
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dorette :
as someone who is 17 days sober for the first time in 15 years, i needed to hear this so badly. this new normal is so uncomfortable and at times literally feels like my reality is crumbling. but i guess this is the price i gotta pay to heal a nervous system that learned safety and security only through numbing and escaping for too long. thank u❤️
2026-06-28 21:21:36
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sun :
No it’s much simpler than that bro. People don’t change because they don’t know how. What’s not known is not known. You can’t be something you don’t know. The pain and negativity is familiar and known.
2026-06-28 22:51:40
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Winning MO :
Literally me when sports betting smh
2026-06-30 19:40:18
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theunmutedlife :
Rumination is dangerous! It keeps you addicted to the flames of your own fire
2026-06-28 21:21:19
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not vulpix :
“Argue for your limitations, and sure enough, they’re yours.” Richard Bach, The Adventures of a Reluctant Messiah. 🫶🏾
2026-06-28 14:13:06
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Jules :
A therapist years ago told me I didn’t believe I was worthy of good things happening to me. Damnnn. She was right too 😅 thankful to have found a way out of that mentality
2026-06-30 05:04:42
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deathdual :
my mother calls it "living in the clutch"
2026-06-30 19:41:43
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Martin P :
I was just thinking about this about myself
2026-06-30 19:17:24
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dakatzpjs :
ooof
I needed to hear this
2026-06-30 15:52:10
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Patty St :
Survival mode is real
2026-06-29 13:14:16
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Coffee Bean :
Misery becomes a chemical routine … peace feels suspicious 🤯
2026-06-28 14:42:02
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LimeGreenFiesta :
I’m high and you are like a prophet to me right now
2026-06-28 22:17:16
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Taylor_⫍ ⃢👁ܫ👁⃢ ⫎ :
this is what I've been complaining about to my therapist. I've been in therapy for 6 yrs now for childhood trauma n I've hit a bit of a wall. I can't quite move past my sadness n its like I identify as my sadness. it's a part of my personality it's what I know sigh.
2026-06-29 03:51:09
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Rob-Not-Bob :
I held my trauma and hurt because calm and healing felt dangerous. Working on yourself is sitting in unease with a version of yourself you’ve never experienced.
2026-06-29 16:25:32
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efitmilifestyle :
reposted after the first sentence
2026-06-28 05:18:40
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FloridaGraham :
Best video on the Internet thank you so much
2026-06-28 15:29:34
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