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Selena :
What about if your daughter is 9? I'm navigating this right now
2026-08-09 17:13:44
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MJ :
I spent far too long covering for him. 💕
2026-06-30 01:49:05
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Becky :
My daughters are 9 and 7 and haven't seen their dad in over 3 years. He says I should be trying my hardest to make sure to nurture their relationship with him. I told him I would put as much effort into that as he puts into having a relationship with our daughters. So I don't do it at all. Actually he is a RARE topic of conversation in our house. I also stopped covering for him. I tell my kids age appropriate truths. I will not allow them to grow up with a false sense of reality, love and how healthy relationships work.
2026-08-21 23:38:28
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Erin▪️Interior Designer :
Same. It’s freeing for me and empowering for them, the kids 🥰🥰🥰
2026-06-28 14:15:04
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Hana :
Family court should do this. I hate watching my kid be forced to go spend time there to he ignored
2026-08-08 19:43:11
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dgsp4 :
Same.. going through this right now. I’m trying to teach my daughter that we don’t accept crappy behaviour from anyone, and people don’t get to just be in your life because they are who they are. She’s so F-ING powerful
2026-06-28 22:11:33
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Winona | 📚🎮 :
Unfortunately, when there is a court order and the children do not want to go there or talk to them on the phone, I’m ordered to encourage and facilitate their relationship with him. The courts make their determinations on the “best interest of the child”, but don’t consider the children’s wishes and where they feel more safe and secure.
2026-08-10 19:23:31
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Ams83 :
I have a 14 and 17 year old and I let them lead. However their dad constantly blames me for their lack of communication. He says I should be encouraging their relationship. 😩
2026-08-19 14:35:38
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Verucalise :
my custody order literally says that visitation is as mutually agreed upon. No set times. If they don't want to, they don't have to. End of discussion.
2026-07-29 14:32:20
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orangeroses44 :
I did this pushing and encouraging for the first 2 years after divorce. Picked my kids up numerous times early on their time with their dad bc they wanted to come home. Finally I decided I wasn’t doing it anymore. Let them choose and make their own decisions. They haven’t seen him in six years. He makes zero efforts either they.
2026-08-08 01:52:56
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Malissa 〽️ :
My daughter told me she would go to her dad's house this weekend only if he asked her. he asked her a day late.
2026-08-22 22:59:42
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Monique Saiz :
I started letting my kids choose their relationship because they deserve to be happy
2026-08-21 21:00:51
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theisabella03 :
Most definitely! I have teen girls. I was forcing them to go every weekend. Then their das said I wasn’t fostering the relationship between them. So I fell back and told my girls that if they want to go they can but if not it’s their responsibility to let him know. For my youngest (15) it’s been about 6 months since she saw him for my (17) she maybe seen him about 3 weekends out of the 6 months. I don’t involve myself anymore with their relationship
2026-06-29 04:03:38
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Nat :
Just this week I decided I will no longer encourage my son to make the calls. I get blamed whether he answers his phone or not and I’m at the point that I no longer desire having a coparenting relationship. From here on out it’s his job to be a parent just the same way I’m a parent 24/7. My son will be 12 soon and I’m leaving it up to him when to communicate.
2026-08-09 02:00:56
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Sgins308 :
It is so amazing to have this ability. It is also teaching the kids how to set their own boundaries in other relationships. My 17 yr old has blocked her dad so they have no communication. My 12 yr old ignores his dad’s calls and texts but he did text his dad for Father’s Day. I thought it was weird but that’s my son’s choice. My kids know that I will always inform their dad about important info that I’m legally required to tell him but otherwise, they have control of what their dad knows.
2026-06-28 18:30:25
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Nay 😘 :
Let them lead based on their age 🫡 This is what I do as well. My kids call my sisters or my parents as their "second person"
2026-06-29 02:02:30
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Liz :
My younger son decided at 16 that he wanted to stay here all of the time. The last time his car battery died, he called me from his dad's driveway to ask me for help.
2026-06-29 02:20:21
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steph🍒☠️🦜🏁mastronunzio :
Preach it 💯💯 that’s exactly how I am too!
2026-06-28 14:22:13
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Ash1322 :
Doing the same
2026-08-10 15:14:12
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Andria | Soft life |Strong mom :
I’m at this point with my 13 year old son now. He is definitely figuring it all out and knows who’s there for him and who isn’t. 🥰
2026-07-11 02:16:59
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thetablewithbethany :
Same. It’s sad but also validating tbh.
2026-07-16 22:24:57
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Claire :
😁Same. It’s freeing for me and empowering for them, the kids 🥰🥰🥰
2026-07-04 05:56:20
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🤍 Veronica :
What if it’s court ordered to go with him until I am able to hopefully modify it?
2026-06-28 17:10:18
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St :
I do this to! I have 4 kids and their dad moved overseas. I do not speak to him unless it is 100% about the kids and I legally have to. All the kids have phones or tablets that their dad has ways to contact them on. Any relationship they have is on him reaching out and them wanting to have the relationship. I no longer encourage a bond like I did for years but I don’t discourage it either. Now I’ve learn to just hold them when they are upset when he doesn’t reach out or visit like he says he would.
2026-08-21 23:42:06
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blondebirdie45 :
Mine is 5 , the deadbeat has been absent for 3 years and going, I’ll never force my child into that man’s life. We are happy , and left alone !!
2026-08-11 19:23:47
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