@helena.earlss: accountability without infinite self-prosecution #innerchildhealing #cptsdrecovery #covertnarcissism #cptsdhealing

Emma_lee0240 :

God I did this for decades. I truly thought we were ALL trying to grow as people and do what’s best for the collective.

n :

"communication only works if all the parties are honestly involved" one of my favorite quotes from my therapist

Soleil Gabrielle 🌞 :

I recently came to the understanding that I do not have to deny my experience in order to forgive them and limit/remove access. I'm so used to feeling guilt and blaming myself for other people's poor behavior. im working on it 💕

Sasquatch :

I'm so glad I came across your video. I had a very heated convo with my manager last week, a lot of things came up and I went hard on him with the truth and pushing back. I said later to him that I'm going to give him some context as to why I was upset, but now since watching this, no I don't think I will. My response was in no way wrong and I still stand by what I said, so if I go and give context as to how I've experienced the same situation with another employer, it's taking away from the fact that they have done something wrong and is putting the focus on "my reaction" and not on them treating staff poorly. Thank you so much for this video, it has probably helped me and other people more than you even realise!

Anastasiya :

The root of this is desperation. It's a passionate determination to make a very real desire come true. You think that if you just want it enough, if you just put more effort into it, if you just accumulate more information to work with, if you just try enough avenues that you'll be able to change the outcome. Unfortunately this is not always the case. I'm not saying to be quick to give up, but if every time you fail, you increase your effort and the results stay the same, then the outcome has nothing to do with you. Save yourself, walk away.

someone566 :

yes, and welf awareness doesnt mean you cant get rightfully angry sometimes, and express it.

Hhhh :

Yup one thing I’ve found is me understanding why sometimes people do things and that sypathy has me ending up consoling the manipulator even though I was the victim.

Mel :

Yesssss. So on point. Self aware and empathic people get stuck in this rut!

Gandalf The Gay (Woman) :

Brilliantly said 🙌🏼 this is my current work. Building the self trust to know where the line between generosity and self-abandonment truly lies for me. What’s helping is to remind myself that my experience/feelings matter AS MUCH AS the other person’s. Not less.

ADHDAshley :

Quickly. Very quickly.

BreezyCan2 :

I do this so bad.

vanessasophiaalign :

Brilliant 💯

Em :

😒😒😒😒😒😒😒😒😒😒😒😒😒😒😒😒😒😒😒😒😒😒😒😒😒😒😒😒😒😒😒😒😒🤦🏼‍♀️🤦🏼‍♀️🤦🏼‍♀️this is too spot on for me.

Awaken Joy :

SO FAST

Soft Soul Healing :

Needed this today. Thank you 💗

✨amaris✨ | mostly yappin :

PetiteManse :

Thank you

✨amaris✨ | mostly yappin :

You said model behavior…..oh

Tara Joon :

Soooo good 👏

v :

Agree

Karma :

I just work around this by having avoidant attachment 😬

nutmeg.pie🐦‍⬛🥧✨ :

Yeah telling anyone how they were being generally does not work and is not useful that’s why telling somebody that is you need to look into nonviolent communication let’s just put it that way

Dime al Privado "Empanadas"👀 :

gr‍eat

MorohaChan :

Especially as an autistic injf 😭 but you gotta build solid boundaries

Kimia :

Would love to hear your take on covert narcs