kelleydaring
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Lwilli22 :
I was waiting for the part where you go into detail about how mad he got,what he did etc and how you responded cause youre growing and yadayada. But his vantage point never came up and it dawned on me that was the point and I still got work to do. This story was about you and how you respond to issues
2026-06-29 13:11:55
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Kelly Pierce :
They honestly have no idea how much we do this
2026-06-29 04:30:22
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Saratonin :
I do the constant mood surveillance thing with my mom, which is why I feel exhausted around her. She’s the moody one so I always have to tailor everything to her needs, otherwise nobody is going to enjoy the day/event. Luckily I noticed the patterns and I have grown to center myself more and sometimes just be blunt and direct with her.
2026-07-01 02:19:09
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Jenn_n_tonic 🇨🇦 :
“His discomfort is not my problem to fix” this needs to be my new mantra.
2026-06-29 01:00:04
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1022nickname :
this level of sensory articulation is so helpful
2026-06-29 21:03:21
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Lucygoosebumps :
I use to give my partner the better looking plate. I stop because I realized that he wasn’t even asking for the better plate and i deserve to treat myself with as much detail and care as I do for him. I choose myself more as a result.
2026-06-29 19:46:06
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bonnyonmaui :
today at the beach I said I was getting cold. He said he wasn't. I got out of the water and went to rinse off instead of sticking it out. I felt empowered and he accused me of being in a bad mood. I can see there is so much being present and really noticing to this... a life of conditioning is hard to break. 💪thank you for your series, its really helpful.
2026-06-28 23:53:22
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Tanya Watson | Artist | ACEOs :
Ok so part of me thought - but what’s wrong with just being considerate of the other person but then I realized he almost never thinks this way when the situation is reversed which I guess unconsciously has created me just feeling annoyed and disappointed. I like being considerate but I also want to be treated that way too. But I do also want to be able to not have to adjust or as you say - brace myself for the reactions of annoyance or impatience- it’s exhausting.
2026-06-29 04:13:50
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_justheretobeentertained :
I’m not even married and already doing this
2026-06-29 03:42:26
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🌟 :
This happens alot for us. This time, I chose to eat at a restaurant *I* wanted instead of what *he* wanted. He refused to come along, and instead drove off in my car and stranded me. Sticking with my choice was worth it
2026-06-29 03:45:57
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Maris Fern :
My therapist reminds me, why is his feelings more important than mine all the time. I matter too! It’s so hard to change but little steps are making me feel more empowered.
2026-06-29 03:35:27
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hbubble :
God I used to do this and eventually it led to me getting irritated with him, which lead to arguments and a ruined outing. But when I stopped caring and just enjoyed my time, he keeps his complaints to himself and we have a much better time.
2026-06-28 23:51:37
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Little Spark of Good :
Thank you for sharing these specific examples. I see myself in your posts and I appreciate the perspectives.
2026-06-28 23:47:45
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Christy May :
Honestly, I’m so glad I’m single. Your story reminded me of how in past partnerships I felt I was walking on eggshells. Thank you for reminding me why I’m happy solo. I’m glad you’re learning how to center yourself in your marriage.
2026-06-29 20:56:17
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aditi :
my frontal lobe js developed
2026-06-30 15:51:07
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cindyrodrigue1 :
What are you doing with your hands?
2026-07-01 01:47:23
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Sheshe909 :
Thank you for this. I really needed to hear it. My nervous system is a wreck
2026-07-01 01:28:20
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Blazy Susan :
This helped me so much. I do this constantly with my husband and IM DONE ⏰
2026-06-30 14:24:27
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Abi :
omg the constant surveillance of his emotions, his energy, his moods, it's EXHAUSTING! NEVER AGAIN!
2026-06-29 22:14:59
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DestinyForever :
Is divorce just not an option? This sounds so exhausting still. You’re still doing emotional labor thinking about it.
2026-06-29 14:45:55
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jen :
This is very important and I think very common in marriage. Since I’ve been watching your posts I find I am more checked in with my needs and desires. Ty
2026-06-28 23:43:46
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East Coast Krissy🏖🌊 :
6 months ago, my husband left me to go take care of his mother on hospice, 500 miles away from me. I chose to stay where I am to be with my kids and grandkids. his mother and I do not like each other at all so I opted out of accompanying him. I've been free to do anything I want, eat when and what I want and it's been amazing. I no longer live to please him and I'm ready to move on and be a single woman.
2026-06-29 15:09:38
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Dee :
Being around someone who is always irritated is so unpleasant
2026-06-30 17:13:22
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Janelle Holm :
All of this deconstruction in thinking and reacting is SO IMPORTANT. Thank you for sharing!!
2026-06-29 00:25:38
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Tiffydanger :
I have stopped telling my husband when people invite us places. Because he almost always never wants to go. And when I basically force him to go I have to spend the entire day walking on eggshells so something doesn’t piss him off and make him change his mind, and then the car ride to the outing is usually dead silent because he is brooding. He will usually have a good time once he is there but he doesn’t realize it is usually because I am spending the entire time making sure he is having a good time and feeling included, which in the end means I’m not having a good time because I’m babysitting. So now I just go alone so I can actually enjoy myself and leave him at home playing video games where he actually wants to be.
2026-06-29 17:14:01
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