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So proud of you Mel. I think some people assume it’s easy and that life just moves on and you walk into the sunset, when in reality, it’s so much more. It’s freedom, grief, confidence, autonomy, hope of things to be different and hope that the wounds will heal, hope someday they will realise and work on themselves and the reality that will likely never happen. The complications of having mutual friends and family members. Acceptance of who you are, who they are and of the situation as a whole. It’s learning to trust your own judgment, stand by your boundaries, it’s loss. It’s the birth of new connections. It’s a new chapter that has good and bad and more chapters appear as you go along. I was estranged from my parents for years, luckily my mother realised the harm she had caused through the time and distance. Had she not reflected and been honest and open and apologised, that would not have happened. Both of my parents are gone now but i still have complicated emotions attached to them. Most of the time, although we reconciled, life is simpler, i no longer have to worry about what they will think, say or do and occasionally (rarely) i miss them. Growing up without support taught me how to be independent so i haven’t really felt like i need them for anything, to teach any life lessons but when times are hard, sometimes i just want them briefly, not to say or do anything but just to have the comfort of their presence which is also complicated because even when they were alive, sometimes that was available and other times it wasn’t. Love to anyone else dealing with abusive parents and are going through anguish of whether to cut contact or not and for those who have cut contact. It’s not easy and i am so sorry, so many people are affected by this. ❤️
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