This is not a normal divorce. There is no coparenting with an abuser. No amount of bending over backwards, keeping the peace, trying to be the perfect coparent will ever work with this dude. Every time he grills your kids with questions about you. Every time he blames you for the divorce. Every time he sends them back to you confused, shut down, and pulling away. That’s not typical divorce damage. That’s his strategy. And while you’re trying to protect them from the conflict — he pulls them into the middle. Your kids aren’t going to figure this out on their own. Not while he’s working this hard to make sure they don’t. You have more power to protect your kids right now than you realize. Not in court. Not through lawyers. Right now. In your home. Sharing custody with the same man watching my child, suffer day in and day out, growing more distant from me— I stopped focusing so much on him and trying to control him and what happened at his house. I started teaching my child to see him for who he was. Gave her chances to use her voice in spaces where it was welcomed not punished. To build the kind of confidence that doesn’t depend on his response. Because a huge part of protecting your kids from his abuse begins inside your home. This isn’t about trash talking him. It isn’t about turning your kids against him. It won’t make your situation harder — it’s specifically designed to protect your kids from further damage and keep them close to you. This is the safer way to empower your kids and strengthen their bond with you. When you’re tired of watching your kids come home hurt after every visit and you’re ready to use the method all moms use when they realize being the perfect coparent doesn’t work — reply METHOD and I’ll send you what does. #divorcedmom #parentalalienation #coparenting #emotionalabuse #stepmom - @the_survivor_center