If you keep having the same argument with your husband over and over, the argument was never the real problem. When you get triggered in your marriage, you are rarely reacting to what just happened. You are reacting to every time before that moment that you felt unheard. Every time you felt like you did not matter. And it feels so intense. He says one dismissive thing and it does not just feel dismissive. It feels like every time you were dismissed growing up. And you start spiralling. That is not just a marriage problem. That is an old wound, sitting inside a marriage. And that is exactly why talking it out never seems to work. You cannot communicate your way out of a wound. The healing has to come first. And when it does, what you react to changes, what you need changes, and the whole relationship starts to shift. This one is hard to hear, I know. But it is also the most hopeful thing, because it means your marriage is not broken. There is a wound underneath it that can actually be healed. If the same fight keeps repeating in your home, send me a DM with the word MARRIAGE. Let us talk about what is really going on beneath the surface. Save this for when you need the reminder. #marriage #muslimmarriage #MentalHealth #muslimwomen #anxiety - @nazihahtabrez