@evertrauma: If you keep going back to the avoidant who keeps breaking your heart, it is not weakness. It is a fatal attraction wired into both of you since childhood. Why do the anxious and avoidant keep returning to each other when it only ends in pain? The answer is darker and deeper than you think.
avoidance are very selfish people. only care for themselves. when you need them, they will say not their problem. never do anything for you or any thoughtful actions. only what benefits them.
2026-07-17 10:56:15
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Salama :
Very difficult to break the cycle because the avoidant person is selfish and not willing to do anything!
2026-07-24 10:24:46
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Jamie :
I don’t want to lose him to someone else
2026-07-03 22:00:25
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bellefiille :
what if the anxiousness becomes avoidance over the time period?
2026-07-01 23:37:36
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Tsholo :
I'm never going back to that guy. He'll never love me how I want to be loved
2026-07-04 06:51:43
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Bad Wolf :
Can someone actually tell me if Avoidant and Anxious attachments can really work out?..Like I really need to know :(
2026-07-13 06:42:36
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Hannelie :
true
2026-08-03 04:41:44
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Douha Soukaina :
Can someon answer me, I think the cyclus is has ended My ex partner ended our on-off 4-year relationship after I confronted him about boundaries and commitment. This time he didn’t just come back like before; he blocked me and has been completely silent for 5 months. He didn’t say goodbye or give any explanation, and I’ve never seen him this cold. It feels like he erased me from his life and moved on as if I never existed
2026-06-30 14:58:35
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Vellaaa :
Yeah im the anxious one but not overacting and my ex is avoidant/nonchalant. He broke up with me after 3 yrs of peaceful relationship so we can focus on our individual growth but he don't want to leave so we agreed to be roommate. He stay with me. He just removed the sweetness and happiness in my life tho it's good coz we're okay as lovers or friends.
2026-07-10 06:44:24
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🪼 :
lahat naman siguro kahit may secure attachment style magiging anxious attachment style pag nagka partner ng avoidant
2026-07-04 08:45:07
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themidnightdiary :
After my break up with an avoidant, I’m anxious turned into avoidant. So yes, I retreat now and I protect. I’m now afraid of being loved too much, they’ll just leave anyway.
2026-07-10 12:05:50
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𝗔𝗝 88 :
Love alone is not enough if it's exhausting
2026-07-08 06:28:25
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Tiana :
It’s to exhausting it’s destroying
2026-07-11 04:28:47
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ariki_after_dark :
I love this - makes sense to me in my relationship
2026-07-12 02:38:36
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Etroc Alliv :
I don't chase but it's hurting...🙃🙃🙃
2026-06-30 03:24:55
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𝒵𝓃𝒶𝓇𝒻. :
Getting used to it
2026-07-09 06:04:10
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🦋 Butterfly :
Break the cycle
2026-06-30 09:06:36
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Raymond Wong :
i doubt i will go back. feel too emptied for someone. My time and presence is too valuable for her. I am sick and tired of the hot and cold pattern and always the only one feeling the pain. 2 years invested is enough. I am not staying anymore.
2026-07-03 15:46:13
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𝓑𝓲𝓰 𝓢𝓱𝓪𝓫𝓫𝓼 ♡ :
I lost my anxious 🤦🏾♂️
2026-07-21 08:00:38
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Gushman :
i get now
2026-07-24 06:10:24
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Klovely40 :
I’m the anxious one but I refuse to be treated invaluable! It’s embarrassing to chase and no response or actions. Silence is disrespectful but I understand the psychological of the avoidance so I don’t take it personal.
2026-07-24 13:46:20
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IslandGirl138 :
Omg this is sooooo my relationship right now I’m the anxious and my husband is the avoidant 💯
2026-07-23 00:11:50
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🎀 B i a n c a ✗ˑ𝘰 :
he left me idk if he will come back
2026-07-11 06:50:58
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