@elly.psychologist: Deciding whether to stay or leave a relationship is one of the hardest things to think through clearly, because your feelings are so tied up in it. These three questions genuinely help. The first is: if nothing in this relationship ever changed, could you stay? Not hoping it might get better, not banking on potential, but genuinely accepting the relationship exactly as it is right now, permanently. The feeling that comes up when you sit with that honestly is important. Dread, anxiety, or a sense of being trapped isn't just nerves about the question. It's your body telling you something about the relationship. The second question is whether their behaviour actually matches what they're promising you. Words are easy, and promises feel real in the moment. But real change in a relationship shows up in consistent behaviour over time, not in what someone says when they want to keep you. If the relationship keeps following the same pattern regardless of what they say, that pattern is the answer. The third question is whether you're in love with who this person actually is right now, or whether you're holding onto who they could be, who they were at the start of the relationship, or who they show you they can be in brief glimpses. A lot of the time, people stay stuck in a difficult relationship not because of what it is but because of what they're hoping it might become. Potential keeps you hoping. Reality tells you what the relationship actually is. Be honest about which one you're responding to Official accounts and resources: www.ellyanastasiades.com #relationshiptok #relationshiptips #relationshipproblems #toxicrelationship #relationshipissues

Elly | Counseling Psychologist

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