@scott.austin.martin: We see a lot of people arrive angry. But anger is almost always sitting on top of hurt. Underneath that anger is disappointment, fear, grief, loneliness, or unmet needs that were never understood. Research from the Gottmans suggests that as long as both partners still believe the other is worthy of kindness, it's rarely too late to begin repairing a relationship. The majority of suffering I see isn't because people are evil. It's because their nervous systems were taught to survive instead of connect. Defensiveness, withdrawal, people pleasing, control, shutting down — those strategies once served a purpose. But eventually they block the very connection we're longing for. Your childhood may have conditioned you to adapt in ways that once kept you safe. But those adaptations don't have to define the rest of your life. There is a way through. #relationships #relationshiptips #nervoussystem #menscoach #relationshiprepair

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