@exclusiveeray: I hate this..#fyp #avoidant #feelings

source :

My experience is people like this won’t change unless they make the conscious effort to. A lot of them will perceive this as nitpicking or an attack or say that it’s an incompatibility to try and make it seem like it’s something they can’t change, and in my opinion should learn to let those people go because no amount of explaining will get them to reflect on their actions and they’ll most likely find someone who will put up with it

hgaldamez__ :

as someone who’s dealt with an avoidant respectfully he absolutely cooked here

atbzam :

wait i actually needed to hear that 😭

Lara🌺 :

Bro please listen to him.. He's not tryin to criticize u, he is tryin to make u aware of urself and ur behavior. And trust me this is a lot of work.. a lot of understanding.

Paige Alexandra :

As someone who attracts avoidants like bees to honey, I can fully understand your frustration; however, this angle would put anyone on the defence. It’s hard to read. I’m not surprised they shut down on you because you’re triggering their defectiveness wound. Why would they bother engaging when they’re made to feel they can’t do anything right? Why aren’t you becoming more curious instead of doubling down on the ridicule?

soul :

Hes 100% right😭

rawr🦁 :

This is waaay too fucking accurate it’s scary

olive 🫒 :

This just seems exhausting for you and I’m so sorry

K :

she would block me before i could say alll tnat

徽 :

He is right but too pushy, it’s easy to know what’s going on but coping is a different story

fu3k01f :

That is an amazing person and I hope you try your best to be better for them

DEVIL.ALL.DAY :

No avoidant is doing all that, they'd have gone cold in the first panel 🤣

Sara 🎧 :

This guys is a fucking genius

zeynisready2sleep :

So exhausting.. why are people so obsessed with changing or fixing others?? Also idk but when someone wants the stop talking or end the conversation.. i dont think its smart nor kind to keep going .. u can still stay and show up again but when someone ask for space .. its not your right to force urself inside in the name of “ care” and “ love” .

Misi :

This hurts because he’s telling the truth

lovelyLu:) :

Bros so poetic

Nel50 :

fu3k01f :

Wait pass the ball I want him

Dan Rodriguez :

Mf is cooking

lay :

Ouch

hannahᖭི༏ᖫྀ® :

I hate people who act like they know you better then you know yourself

Lin :

That person in the grey is right btw

_.zacbka :

It’s not our responsibility to heal other people

HposopH :

Someone who might be avoidant also know how to talk like that btw , could be that he cares and also could be an insecurity and hes projecting , in my opinion its not always a wake up call , bc sometimes an avoidant knows hes like that and hes trying to change , pushing them and telling them they are avoidants wont help much , what helps is compassion and an appropriate way to deal with it. Peace