@anxiouslyalej: Stop asking what if he gives the next girl everything you wanted. The peace you're looking for is not in his highlight reel. So here's your reality check. Stop asking who he could have been and ask what being with him made of you. Pull up the photos from back then. There aren't many, because you were inflamed and running on cortisol. You really think it's a coincidence your skin cleared and your jaw got sharper the second it ended? You cannot thrive when you're stuck in survival mode. And patterns don't change with time, they change with work. You're assuming he wants to change. He wants the outcome of change. Nobody wants the part where you hold yourself to the fire. Even if he stayed, even if he gave you all of it, you couldn't enjoy it, because you can't enjoy something you had to beg for. You'd be restless knowing you became someone you don't respect just to get it. Keywords: avoidant ex, avoidant attachment, what if he gives the next girl everything, getting over an ex, breakup healing, healing after a breakup. #relationships #breakups #avoidantattachment #womensdatingadvice #datingadvice

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