@kelleydaring: #decentermen #emotionallabor #marriedlifebelike #matriarchy #marriedcouple

Laura Gallup :

Love your content! I am engaged and have been thinking a lot about all of this. But I sometimes ask myself - what is the point of getting married at all? If my goals don’t include having kids, staying together til death, etc - should we just not do marriage? Is there still a benefit or reason to do it?

aurorainthewind :

i love how you are talking about centering yourself instead decentering your husband. It’s a proof of what you’re talking about. Thank you for sharing!

Siobhan :

I love women.

Katie Coop :

how do i explain to him im trying to do this without seeming selfish

user6057234577503 :

You need to do a Ted Talk about this…

StixCinna :

it would make me feel better knowing my partner is there because they want to be, not because they feel like they have to be.

@randomaniac :

im in the same situation, working in what i want before worry about him. and is true, he doesn't measure it he just keep going, im tired of explaining. I packed my circus, collected my monkeys and if he wants to see my show again, he will need to work for a ticket

Amanda Doing Her Best :

Thank you so much for sharing your story! I just applied to get my associate degree because I am working on centering myself!

💫🛼🪩 electrokineticist :

See, this would obviate the need for most affairs. 🤷🏻‍♀️

Kiersten :

I LOVE this. Thank you for this series!

HoldMyPoodle :

love the hair btw

Nikki :

Contracts end all the time.. can can renew contracts, break them , revitalize or revamp them if you want to… you don’t lose your autonomy when married… at least the smart ones don’t 🤷🏾‍♀️

lydia :

having a SO does not determine my ability to be happy but having a SO increases my happiness and I think that's so beautiful. CHOOSE EACH OTHER.

IslandtimeNZ💛LS💛 :

Remember to give ourselves as much compassion as we give to our partners..

jessicasmith9650 :

I need to hear how you worked through conflict during this process. Did he ever blow up or accuse you of doing something wrong?

Dr.Rebirth :

💯% agree!

SwayingLetters :

Do you have separate bedrooms? I feel that meditation and journaling before bed would take up a lot of me time. How do you respond to him wanting to sit with you when you have other stuff to do?

Just Roar :

I agree with 90% of what you’re saying, but I think believing you could just go your separate ways with no drama is pretty close to impossible. I’ve never heard of a marriage ending without pain and pain changes people. We can never really know until it happens.

Imagine :

Revaluate every 5 years.

sarahklein251988 :

These video’s are so valuable! I recognize so much of what you are talking about although I was never really aware of this dynamic going on. I ended a 20 year relationship this year, in my case it needed to end even if I had done all this work. However me now being single I can still learn so much by watching these video’s and becoming aware of some of the dynamics and ways of being I have participated in. I also felt at one point that I was not a participant of my life, like my life was being taken away from me, so much so that I didnt really see the point of life / continuing life this way 🥺. And this is what pushed me to end the relationship, I had to essentially save myself.

tobsbytobs :

Please write a book 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾

churple :

this is lovely. 'something we continue to participate in bc we both want to' ahhhhhhh

Anastasia Asozial :

Tina Tran :

I absolutely love this ❤️

Pen & Theo 🇦🇺🦘🐨🖤💛❤️ :

Gosh, if I had tried to do this in my marriage to my wife, she would have KICKED OFF!! In the end, I left because I knew this would never be an option