@keshaspeaks: What if choosing yourself isn’t selfish? What if it’s the most honest thing you can do after years of being trained to make everybody else comfortable? A lot of women were taught that love means shrinking the need, swallowing the truth, keeping the peace, and calling that “being a good woman.” But if the whole family only works when you keep abandoning yourself… that’s not peace. That’s a system. And sometimes choosing yourself is how you stop letting your disappearance be the price of everybody else’s comfort 😌 #ChoosingYourself #SelfTrust #EmotionalLabor #MarriageTalk #KeshaSpeaks
I chose myself and everybody is trippin bc i changed
2026-06-30 22:31:26
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mfazil :
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2026-07-03 06:23:03
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Duhnelle :
Girl, you are the best at explaining so many topics, every video blows my mind. So many have made me cry because how eye opening they are. The struggle is real. You need to publish a book series on relationships.
2026-07-01 02:38:19
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JEN :
I wish the guilt while questioning everything would disappear. 😩
2026-06-30 22:44:03
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paola :
I’m there and it’s exhausting but no matter what I won’t shrink myself to fit in that box that he made for me. I’m not only choosing me but I’m also teaching my daughters to set boundaries and my son to respect them
2026-07-01 03:01:27
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user3650816999469 :
Thank you, you have helped so much! Now that I choose myself, I really don’t care if the marriage continues or not if he steps up Great if he doesn’t don’t care. And that is entirely because I’m now choosing to listen to my own needs and it’s about time 60 years old 30 years married. Thank you again so very much.
2026-07-03 17:48:15
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AmyLaura✌️👻💜 :
No we were taught to tuck shit down, keep it to yourself and move on. Now….. call me selfish cause yes I’m putting me first! I’m still a mom but my mental health is important.
2026-06-30 23:06:16
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The Jude Abides :
Chose myself over a decade ago. I’m now 43, single, child free, a home owner, have a great career and wonderful friends. I live a rich and full life that’s entirely on my own terms. Some people see it as selfish but I see it as fulfilling my potential
2026-07-01 05:49:00
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•¤☆RAYA☆¤• NgaWairiki/NgaiTahu :
LOUD Repost!!!
2026-07-01 05:27:15
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Crimsoncorgi :
I need examples how to do this. because I have no idea and I'm tired and done.
2026-07-01 19:29:50
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MommaGuinnGlowing :
I have been preaching the same messages that you explain in your videos in my marriage for years. Finding your videos and seeing you and others feel the same has made me feel SEEN and SANE. We are 10 years in marriage and ever since I said I am done and stop showing up for him, now he has been changing.... he has been changing his behavior and habits and even his responses over the last year so far. So I just wanted to say, "Thank you for sharing your story and being able to verbalize in simple terms and label situations that explains our shared experiences.". I appreciate you and your content and love your heart 🫶🏼
2026-07-02 11:28:14
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marilynjohnson105 :
starting choosing myself and I'm starting to find some peace.
2026-07-01 00:04:43
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MerBearLovesPugs :
The being tired that sleep can’t fix is so incredibly real!!! 🥱
2026-07-01 14:26:11
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Jennifer :
Girl!! My whole life. And the last 2 years I’m learning to refuse to disappear. And thankfully my kids have been so supportive. It highlighted some major issues in our marriage though.
2026-07-01 16:47:11
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K :
I’m experiencing this now! I’m a mom of 7 and I’m TIRED 😩😩😩
2026-07-01 12:08:43
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YadiratheNP :
You somehow put everything ive been through into words in the most eloquent and perfect way. Thank you i feel seen.
2026-07-01 14:22:40
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Stephanie P J :
girl u preaching!!!!!!!
2026-07-02 00:20:30
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Refashionista Sheri🇨🇦♻️ :
one of the positives about this is how amazingly easy it has been for me to handle all aspects of getting divorced 😊
2026-07-01 09:56:01
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People Do What They Want To Do :
Beautifully said!!!
2026-07-01 01:09:43
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Mari Mari :
hey love, I’m going through now. I just left my 7 year relationship Nov 2025. I was tired of holding it down for everyone. I’m raising a son he’s 16. I’m raising him to be helpful to your wife. We need to start teaching them how to be self sufficient. So that they can have the skills to help his spouse. Love you girl. I get you, it’s like you’re talking to me. Thank you
2026-07-01 22:25:14
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wilsonashleyn :
I have been in therapy for this. what i have come to realize is that this is a pattern I've carried from childhood. I have communicated this to my husband and he has started to help me realize when that pattern shows up. it has really helped our marriage. I watch you everyday and you have helped me so much! Thank you so much 💓
2026-07-01 12:59:05
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Stepharoony :
I know, I hate that im 36 and FINALLY learning about myself and how to accept and love myself.
2026-07-01 17:22:20
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stephanieexum :
You are spot on 🎯
2026-07-01 02:45:36
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