jo7iah
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Wednesday 01 July 2026 14:36:33 GMT
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Sylv :
U r helping me reflect. I understand what my avoidant ex meant on a few things he said about me that I didn’t understand at the time. I didn’t get him. I was dependent, I wasn’t aware of myself, put pressure on him to regulate me, i always thought it was about me when he withdrew. I had no idea I was doing that until I watched some of your videos. He had his flaws but I didn’t see mine.
2026-07-12 20:06:16
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Amari🌟 :
You have such an eloquent way to explain this dynamic. Thank you! I can understand things as I see them but have such a hard time trying to explain to others what it is I’m seeing, understanding, and sitting with regarding another person.
2026-07-01 16:18:31
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titch1401 :
You have a valid points, but people need to be more self aware and understand that if a person is having a reaction towards something someone else has either said or done, somewhere in their life the nervous system remembered that and now they react without thinking, they dont get a choice on that part until they get to the root of the issue. One party wants one thing the other party gets overwhelmed neither are wrong just need to know why they behave that way.
2026-07-01 19:16:16
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Höge 👽 :
Could you try to explain / analyze this to me: I was in a relationship with someone who consistently brought up personal things way back from my past, which were not related to her or relationships in general and weaponized them basically as a way to counter any arguments and fights. At the very start we agreed that we both need full openness and honesty, and that it requires a safe and stable environment. I tried bringing this up multiple times, but it would always get countered by bringing up my past. I did not have the skills required to always de-escalate and calm these situations down, and it really felt helpless. What does this behaviour tell you? She also suffered from OCD and GAD, and I tried very much to account for them to the best of my abilities.
2026-07-05 14:28:41
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anewaccount :
do you have any videos discussing examples between co regulation and external/internal regulation strategies? I'm trying to figure out if I even understand co regulation. yes, I could Google search as an alternative if needed.
2026-07-02 00:29:36
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Nail Gawdess 🥀 :
Everybody be quiet my favorite show is on 🤭🤭🤭🤭
2026-08-08 12:14:04
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✨Simply_MJ✨ :
This 🎯
2026-08-14 21:47:44
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Northernlight3397 :
Ok this video was good... in this isolated example the other person should be mindful and allow the pace but I think why people get confused is that unfortunately like I think with extreme avoidance everything is like opposite day ordinarily, if you see somebody is safe, they're not being pushy. They're not being reactive whatever you might feel safer around them, right and because you might understand what it feels like to need safety and got your own pace, you wanna extend that to other people but when you do that like and you were talking about not growing capacity, so even if the person is safe and the person in front of them never grows the capacity over months years then yes we can say that that behavior is problematic so uncertainty for a period of time about issues that are not pressing can be tolerated but the evolution if you're going to need to obviously regulate at some point or learn to do that or build tolerance even in small increments, but that has to at some point appear because you creating more and more safety, it doesn't give the result. It just creates comfort and comfort and avoidance create stagnation and obviously it the longer it goes on. It's harder to pattern.
2026-07-13 06:22:46
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illumi's babe :
I don’t know if you talked about shame before but if you didn’t can you please
2026-07-04 18:28:06
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nightmare_g0blin :
respect
2026-08-06 12:04:01
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floofarian persiancat💓 :
you are so articulate so anyone that gets triggered and wants to start a war in the comment section proves your point!! unfortunately sometimes theres just a intellectual gap which yiu obviously know about!! keep crushing it!! Your takes are essential
2026-07-30 18:49:41
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miggs :
I like that you talk slow and use pauses correctly chat. You taught me about impact and intention. And how to correctly approach situations around how people can be experiencing me. And it reminds me of my old stoicism hardcore days, getting back into it.
2026-07-02 04:18:03
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Treasure Mngadi :
Love how articulate you are man!
2026-07-01 16:30:46
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Sarah #audhdtherapist :
Have you considered how this co-exists with OCD? I’ve been dissecting it for a few months. It’s also linked to limerence too. Keep talking please. You’re helping me continue to explore and process these overlaps:)
2026-07-01 22:07:33
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Perkins Edwards :
100%
2026-07-01 22:03:56
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Northernlight3397 :
Oh finally, you gave a good unbiased example I agree you shouldn't push somebody past their pace of readiness 💯 if you love and care about somebody, you can hold space for them so as long as you get there at some point, by in order for this to happen, this requires emotional interdependence. This requires partnership partnership cannot exist or thrive. We're independence of emotional experience is being fostered,
2026-07-13 06:16:21
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Priscila Luquez :
Bro you’re so smart. And forealll you trigger me but it’s okay 😂😂😂
2026-07-01 18:12:35
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Mercedes_williams :
I like to tussle and challenge myself. I’m ready
2026-07-01 16:19:47
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didi402 :
That’s funny, “weaponizing therapy speech” 🤭
2026-07-18 20:42:50
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