@scott.austin.martin: One of the biggest mistakes people make is thinking an apology is repair. It isn't. Real repair has three components. If one is missing, trust usually doesn't come back. 1.Ownership — Can you acknowledge what happened without minimizing it, blaming your partner, or explaining why you did it? 2.Containment — Can you stay present with the impact your behavior had without becoming defensive or making it about your intentions? Most people can say "I'm sorry." Very few can tolerate sitting with someone else's hurt. 3.Changed behavior — If the same pattern keeps happening, the nervous system eventually stops believing the words. Trust is rebuilt when the experience changes, not when the apology gets better. Repair isn't about ending the conversation. It's about creating a new experience where your partner's nervous system can finally say, "Maybe this time it's actually different." #relationships #relationshiptips #nervoussystem #menscoach #relationshiprepair

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