@thechrishinton: The currency behind every relationship isn't love. It's the mutual want to keep building it. Love is the motivation. Nourishment is the expression. Want to is the outcome. #relationshipadvice #loveandrelationships #personaldevelopment #emotionalintelligence #selfawareness

Jean Hayek :

I don't want attention, time, or energy from someone if the person feels obligated to give it. I want them to want to give it.

melypepper :

Love is about choosing each other .

FireFlyV :

HAPPY BIRTHDAY ANYWAY CHRISTOPHER.

milliondollarmenace :

This was the most emotionally mature perspective I’ve ever heard

Bruce :

love requires action.. a lot of people claim they love someone but they never actually put effort into actually building love but in my opinion resentment is what destroys most relationships

ZacharyTThomas :

Very intriguing. I’ve always said love is a choice. It doesn’t always come natural. Self protection comes naturally. Love, prioritizing someone else’s flourishing, must be nourished and fed even when that will not come easily.

Joni :

It should be 100% 100% not 50-50, in a relationship for whatever reason one partner may not be able to give 100%, but if the other partner can give 100%, I don’t see a deficit throughout the relationship may bounce back-and-forth unless they have there has to be two participants!!! I’m ending a relationship that I was the only one participating in!!

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I knew my attention span was fine

Dixie Denton :

I love the part where you said “some people mistake peace for bordom

reydorim :

This is hard to hear as someone who constantly nourished the relationship just to be tossed away with almost no warning.

If not now, when? :

MaryAlexandra :

You took "if they wanted to, they would." to a whole nother level.

Dimorphic_Fungi :

LOVE has never been enough! I don’t do anything out of love! It’s too misleading! It’s cool but other factors are what keeps me with a person!

crissydomenicobla :

Absofuckinglutely!!!! Agree with the want vs need! To me it’s much better to be wanted than needed. Want = choice need = dependency. Big difference. Want creates peace harmony and happiness. Need creates pressure and resentment. Just my opinion. Happy birthday!🎂🎉

Lee :

You put in a way that helps me understand

Sarah Gail :

I think you’re 💯 correct

Jean Oliver475 :

yes you are definitely right👏👏 the only thing I would add is if you decide to leave the relationship you do it with kindness and care.

Oregon's Boring Refuge :

My understanding of love is Wanting to do what's right. Then, after years of being with my husband and knowing that I couldn't give him what he wanted, he wanted more children. I didn't. And yes, I could have, but that's not what I wanted. So I divorced him, was it the right choice? Absolutely, because even though he didn't want the divorce. He found somebody else married her and had 4 kids. She was able to give him what I couldn't or wouldn't give him? Love is you can be mad at hell, at the other person. But when they walk through the door you're happy to see them. And know that they're okay, I think the biggest problem is people jump into relationships too quickly. And don't give it time to find what each other's WANT out of Life. and themselves.

Honor :

I recently heard something like life is like a heartbeat, with ups and downs and when you think you want things to be peaceful, it’s kind of like flatlining and that’s a sign of death. So a relationship may be up and down, constantly changing. For me, I’ve always thought it was important to be attracted to the person, doesn’t matter what they look like there’s something you have to be attracted to. And another thing for me has always been communication. You have to be able to have long dinners together and have something to talk about even decades after you’ve been together.

FitMortgageMom :

Spot on! Thanks for helping me get closer to my decision. Happy Birthday!!!

victoriaday0 :

Happy Birthday! You have great information.

gidgetstrickler25 :

Happy Birthday, love our talks.

✨Jrkmomma✨ :

Happy birthday!

Mamma T :

Choosing vs Obligation. Absolutely.