hey Sydney can you help me with this situation: so the both of us are kind of avoidants and we’ve been seeing each other 7 times in 1 1/2 years, he lives in a different county not too far away tho, so everytime im there we meet. Now we also started getting intimate and after last time I finally started to open up and text him how I feel bc i remembered you saying to take more emotional risks. He told me the feelings are mutual. Since then I haven’t heard from him tho also when I reached out. What do I do, wait?
2026-07-02 09:35:36
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Patttpatricia :
When I first saw one of your vid I don’t understand what you’re saying honestly coz what do you mean I might be the problem the whole time? but since it’s popping up on my feed most of the time so I feel like it’s the divine that wants me to pay attention and then I started to watch most of your videos and I finally understand one by one. Now it changed me and I can’t thank you enough because I am more secure and happy now we’re more at peace and he became consistent. So I think I was really the problem lol
2026-07-02 12:12:36
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clara :
hi sydney ! I have the opposite question to the one you usually get ("how do i know if he’s into me") : how do I know if I’m really into him ? As an avoidant woman it’s hard to know if you’re really not falling in love because he’s not the right match, or if it’s just a defence mechanism (even though I personally feel my cologne & nervous system are fine)
2026-07-02 08:18:30
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Dea Biancarelli :
Love love love your content! Your recommended a book once that you used in recovery but I can’t find that video, can you remind me?
2026-07-02 12:33:07
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Brain :
I need some advice if possible :’) I’m finding myself falling into the same pattern I always do. I thought I was interested in this guy and now he’s texting MORE and being more openly flirty and I feel myself shutting down and looking for reasons to dislike him that wouldn’t have even mattered before. But now I’m confused with my own feelings and I’m not sure what I’m really feeling. Like what’s true and what is just my avoidance. I’ve never dated because of my avoidance and I’m convinced he will hate me or I’ll do something to make him hate me. I’m now at a point where I feel physically ill and I know it’s just a matter of time before I enter full on panic mode. How do I control this??
2026-07-02 15:12:43
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