@laufeyx_: loving avoidant people is not for the weak😅😅 #avoidantattachment #fypppppppppppppppppppppppppppppppppppp #unsaidthoughts ##4u #makeitviral

burlesque king :

this is the incredible level of communication between you two! especially from the avoiding partner! i hope you figure stuff out!

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Face problems together with your partner. Ask God/Jesus Christ for guidance

danny :

the way most comments is so relatable, that relationship was so difficult. Genuinely, scared to date an avoidant again.

HiDdEnN :

I wish this happened with me but like, fym she wanted space and then she was playing and in call with her friends, thats not wanting space, thats just not wanting to speak specifically with me

UwU-Chan :

I was hurt and overwhelmed, too. But comparing myself to him, he's too vulnerable and foolish. He's too weak, it makes me feel like I need to set aside my emotions and concerns to make sure he's okay... he never asked me if I'm okay. rn, we're in cool off phase

ShopLurvess :

since we've been "just friends", he can open up to me easily. it doesn't pressure him anymore to open up for his vulnerability. ill let this situationship "hurt me because its uncertain" until im ready to walk away. at some point i will but not now because i still care

Josh Pord :

I wish I had been smart enough to have this conversation. Instead I kept trying to love her more

Penegak_Tembikai🍉🇵🇸 :

I was like you and i know how it feels like. Believe me. But then I slowly tried to change and be honest with him abt how I feel. He made me so safe to keep reaching out to him whenever life feels heavy. I am so grateful he’s so understanding. And I realized myself it’s very unfair to make him to feel not enough or pull away from him. So I conquer the fear, every fear for him eventho it’s very hard . Glad my boyfriend is very supportive. He lands me his hand to make me safe enough 😔 up till now I am still learning how not to run away when life starts to overwhelm me 😔 and I am so proud of him for always stay beside me no matter what. Believe me, you can do this!!! 🥺I know it’s very hard but I know you can. You have a supportive boyfriend

Eisz :

ang problema sa avoidant, hindi yung pull away or pag distance nila pag naooverwhelm na eh, yung problem is yung hindi nila sinusubukan mag bago even though merong taong handang tumulong. some may says hindi madali, yes totoo naman, hindi talaga siya madali because of past traumas and experiences. I understand that and I, myself, almost become avoidant, but that's not me. God created me to love eh. Sometimes need niyo lang din mahanap yung drive to change. If God was my drive not to become avoidant, you should have too. ask yourself avoidants sometimes it's about purpose, and meaning of life. (di ito attack ah? self reflection lang tayo)

daintypotat0 :

omggg all the avoidants text the same way tf

JM'sOverthinkingAgain :

I wish she replied like ts. But instead she made me look like a fool, pinning the blame on me everytime we argue and getting mad because of the way I "reacted". I understand her better than anyone, ik how much of an avoidant she was and I never blamed her for it, hell there's even circumstances that I blame myself for reacting that way, for expressing my feelings and the things I want her to understand. And now I realised how much I've lowered myself just to love someone who can't even match my frequency. Loving an avoidant isn't easy, that's true. But I also believe that if a person really loves you, avoidant or not, they're willing to grow along with you. Not instantly, not overnight, but if they truly mean it they'll accept growth and not take you for granted. tbh it's exhausting, loving someone who disassociate themselves to reality and expecting you to act like an anchor they can go back everytime they leave you behind. I hope her the best, I don't resent her, but I definitely won't be the same person I was when she first met me. May God bless you all.

moonwalker199x :

I almost lost my relationship because of this, eventually you’ll have to change…cause this does build resentment, and an endless cycle that won’t stop…eventually you just end up realising that you’re gonna have to change not for your partner but for yourself too.

Nkanyezi🌈 :

This is a beautiful, honest conversation. With that said, these two people are not compatible

Rita Anazia :

Yeah no. Your nervous system will go into overdrive.

choi :

yes mahirap, but i want to understand her kahit hanggang maubos ako

Maggie :

an avoidant changed me from anxious to avoidant. but the only difference is i know how it feels being treated by an avoidant so i stopped doing those to my partner. im becoming better for him, i do not want to treat him the same way i was treated before. nobody deserves that, not my precious.

Harry Evol :

It looks lovely, wishful... This conversation just never happened.

م :

This is so me and him

v1005 :

lilcherrybug :

As someone in the same shoes as the girl, our mental health is our responsibility. It may not be our fault na ganito tayo, and we definitely need more understanding and patience from our partners. Pero kailangan nating pag trabahuhan ng maigi na maging healthy din. Hindi enough ang di ko alam paano, kailangan nating alamin. Kasi pag hindi, pinalalago at kinakalat lang natin ang toxicity and trauma na nangyare saten to other people, we will end up perpetuating the same abuse. Wag tayo ganon! I still struggle how to function healthily but it is my responsibility to work on that. Kung talagang di mo kaya, wag muna mag partner. Hindi dahil hindi tayo loveable ah!! Kung di para di maka trauma ng iba, unfair din kasi. If in progress pa while with partner, okay lang din yun basta you also know that your partner has needs (reassurance etc) na mameet mo kahit papano. Di pwedebg puro tayo lang inaalagaan at iniintindi.

Vladi :

I am the avoidant.. I lost her because I just can't win sa sarili kong mind.. she is way better off without me.. I wish her nothing but all the happiness she deserve

MATILDA :

despite all the chemistery and the love, it's not worth suffering and losing myself to keep someone who doesn't even consider my feelings.q

MagixSailor :

Yeah same situation, talked about it and part ways... As long as she is getting better and connecting with other people, opening herself up and happy. I'm happy too..

Elon Shelby :

they are aware that they are hurting you but still chose to be selfish.. that's not love. it'd selfishness and self centered behaviors please let them be, work on yourself , someone who will value you will always treat you the way you expect.. these people are not ready for relationships because of their mental and toxic behaviors.. I'm sorry . If you want to talk, you can always talk to me.

Oma Debbie😇 :

Madam block this man