I love how people are bringing this up, because I feel like I’ve been screaming this in the void. The obsession of being relational without friction it’s just so much fairy 🧚 dust. I could go on forever about this topic but it’s truly exhausting trying to explain this to people who say they want relationship, but require certainty and ease before discovery.
2026-08-03 02:05:16
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Temi✨ :
"who are you when the fantasy pops" ough very well said
2026-08-01 17:20:54
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winters.joshua :
Oh you’re going deeep. This could be a book
2026-07-03 01:20:14
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amokeskiiii :
I fear we can copy and paste this to platonic relationships too
2026-08-03 20:11:05
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Erykah but who :
put this on his fyp not mine
2026-08-03 21:21:53
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AB :
I needed to hear this lowkey
2026-07-21 02:07:52
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Jeremiah :
The premise of Obsession
2026-07-20 04:08:38
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chefsavoi :
This was so freeing and grounding. I also believe capitalism contributes to the unconditional usefulness, urgency & productivity we expect from the people in our lives and ourselves.
2026-07-21 21:07:56
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7words :
This video is extremely well articulated
2026-07-04 14:08:58
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realjamaicanjerk :
Nah this fucked me up I wasn’t ready
2026-07-26 04:44:00
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MissDoubleO :
I always say this, people have way too many ideas and fantasies about who and what people are.
2026-07-22 22:49:23
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PINKVALENCIAGA_ :
EXCELLENT! The point about possessing the emotional vocabulary!!! Awareness is so important for articulating and contextualizing one’s lived reality. The appropriate language provides clarity when conveying true desires of the heart! Thank you for sharing your wisdom.
2026-07-02 22:32:17
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twinwtm_ :
This is one helluva essay. Publish ts before its stolen
2026-07-03 15:16:08
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as uknomeuser :
“BEING IS A VERB” 🤧
2026-07-21 03:12:00
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Billy 🍀 :
Started off so real I almost had to swipe 😩
2026-07-22 09:23:59
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jamal :
do the knowledge sister. hbcu wall in the back tuff🤝🏾
2026-07-20 23:50:27
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Keith :
So insightful. More please.
2026-07-22 21:51:35
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ChaTay :
I was on the panel with you at the Black Houston’s Symposium! Absolutely love hearing you speak about this. Amazing analysis.
2026-07-21 02:12:54
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