@drjulie: 🤫 A little secret about your brain 🧠 Do all your relationships follow the same destructive pattern? So many of us find ourselves repeating the same painful relationship patterns, even when we desperately want something different. From a Cognitive Analytic Therapy (CAT) perspective, we develop "relational patterns" early in life. They become the templates our brains use to predict what relationships should feel like, what to expect from other people, and how to respond in return. Whatever love looked like in childhood, that can be all we know. Familiarity creates a sense of certainty, even when it comes with emotional pain. So we can sometimes mistake it for compatibility. And the people who trigger your deepest wounds can also feel strangely compelling. Not because they're right for you, but because they fit an old pattern. If you like my videos I think you'll love my million-copy Sunday Times bestseller, 'Why Has Nobody Told Me This Before?' And my New York Times bestseller, 'Open When.' Find them at the link in my bio.

Dr Julie | Psychologist

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Thursday 02 July 2026 15:59:27 GMT