@scott.austin.martin: One of the biggest mistakes people make: believing that if they didn't intend to hurt someone, they couldn't have. But relationships don't run on your intentions. They run on the other person's experience. If you accidentally step on someone's foot, you don't argue that it shouldn't hurt because you didn't mean it. You apologize, check on them, and become more aware of where you're walking. Emotional impact works the same way. The strongest people I've worked with stopped asking, "How could you feel that way? I didn't mean that." They started asking, "What was it about my behavior that created that experience for you?" That question changes everything. You stop treating your partner's experience like a courtroom where you have to prove your innocence — and start treating it like a classroom where you have something to learn. #relationships #relationshiptips #nervoussystem #menscoach

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EvanPar❌ :

If I never intended to hurt you… But my normal behavior consistently hurts you…. We need to figure out why. Is it because my behavior is genuinely hurtful? Or because it conflicts with how you experience and imagine relationships? The answer might not be blame. It might be compatibility. If it’s simply who I am…. Maybe this isn’t a communication problem. Maybe it’s a compatibility problem. 🧐

2026-07-03 04:45:49

Gen❌AuDHDdogmom🏳️‍🌈🇲🇽🪶 :

Impact matters over intent

2026-07-03 04:09:30

CRF :

This is the absolute best! My guy doesn’t always understand these (he can’t stick with it to the end- not much counseling) but this is so simplified and easy to understand for him. THANK YOU

2026-07-03 12:23:22

Space :

"Bad things happen even with best intentions".

2026-07-03 03:59:55

2BAlexis 🇨🇦 ❌ :

Well said.

2026-07-03 12:24:15

Priscilla Andrews :

This!!!!

2026-07-03 03:18:07

Stella + Cal🧩 :

thank you

2026-07-03 03:01:04

WambdiTanka624 :

This is an ever ongoing practice. I have to ask my wife “how does this register in your mind or from your perspective?”

2026-07-03 02:57:57

Naynay0176 :

Hmm 🤔… interesting… I need to get better at this … guess I got taught to not ask. Got taught to disappear only. Gonna try these new ideas..

2026-07-03 05:23:30

helenwheeler985 :

💯

2026-07-03 07:50:05

Kirsty Cooper :

💯

2026-07-02 22:46:46

Danyaled1🖤 :

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2026-07-03 12:14:41

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