@bareitallpodcast: Don’t date just to distract yourself from someone you haven’t moved on from. 💯 #fyp #thebareitallpodcast #relationshipadvice #LifeAdvice #loveadvice EP 119: Making Peace With the Past | The Unfinished Room Theory Watch here: https://open.spotify.com/episode/15FHwBU8ihgzBLYnCMU3Zi?si=EnKnnlt-RJ-TwJ77cFNGeA — Disclaimer: This clip only highlights a portion of the full episode and does not represent the entire discussion or other related issues. For full context, we encourage you to watch or listen to the complete episode.

Jess Caraso-Bueno :

@Jess Caraso-Bueno:pag first date,if the other person talks about past traumatic experiences sa relationship, run. Kasi magiging panapal ka lang,once they're ready and ok na cla, thank you and good bye na.

🌬🌖🖤🖤 Hanmai 🐺🦊🌷 :

"the best love begins when your heart is ready, not when it's trying to escape the past."

Youlagondoo :

Indeed! I tried to date someone new pero tinigil ko agad. Kasi hindi pa ako fully healed sa past ko. Naawa ako sa bago. Mahalin muna ang sarili

@justsel28 :

For me, it really depends on the person’s pace in their healing journey. If right after the break up you decide to immediately put yourself back into the market, for me, that is fine so long as you don’t make that new person responsible for your own healing or suck their energy to fill in the void that loss and grief left you. Sometimes connecting with new people helps you discover something new about ourselves and can be therapeutic too because it opens you up to a different perspective and new energy and just simply being open to new possibilities. My take on this is that we just have to make sure that we are not holding any expectations of emotional investments from the new person or lead them on to something that they don’t deserve if you are not ready or able to reciprocate that. We need to be conscious that there’s clarity, transparency and boundaries.

Dingdong Bahan :

Exactly!

pancake_ :

I agree. But if you’re lucky enough to find someone who isn’t too caught up in labels, it can actually work out well. I remember my psychologist telling me that after a breakup, it’s okay to do whatever genuinely helps you move on as long as it’s healthy. That can even include flirting, if it helps you heal rather than avoid your feelings.

itsnotrachhh :

This is true! I tried dating after we broke up pero hindi pala kaya, hindi deserve ng new guy secure pa naman siya. thats why i let go of him. Maybe in the future pag totally healed na ko.

D_L4n :

It’s almost 6 months pero parang ang hirap humanap ng bago. parang feeling ko baka masaktan lang ako ulit o baka masaktan ko lang ang bago dahil parang hanggang ngayon di pa ako ready. kaya minsan umiiwas nalang ako.

❤️LöLï❤️ :

ayaw nga nila mag heal gusto nila may bago agad .

Liliwen Franco :

Same mindset mahh!! I chose to heal first and chose myself before dating someone. Hindi na tayo bata pa para maglaro 🙂

Raul Suloga-ol :

lvr.dyyy :

iyong pagmamahal mo nasa past pa, paano na lang iyong bago? anong ibibigay mong pagmamahal sa kaniya?

🌻 :

yesss. it will be unfair sa dine-date mo kung may feelings ka pa din sa ex mo.

_Phoebepheebs :

True

sam :

Minsan kasi hindi natin/nila kayang magisa. That takes a lot of strength and courage.

Apple Green :

exactly...takot mag healed mag-isa...pwedeng maging rebound ang bago

macmac1122 :

tama…apaka unfair

kayeeeee :

9 months na. ayoko talaga hahaha natrauma nako iniisip ko baka maiwan ulit ako. mas okay siguro mag isa nalang

GrAce🔏#23 :

true . 💯💯💯

대니케이크🍰-icay :

Exactly‼️

HtenaJ06 :

True 100 percent,

Ms Yassi :

trueeeee

momshinshin :

nun nakipagdate ako and committed after 4 years (2006 break up to 2010 when i dated my bf/hubby), i felt ok n tlga ako. pro when my GL/ex and i had talked on the phone sometime in 2018-2019, nakipagbiruan pa ako sa knya and i was expecting tatawanan na lang nmin lhat kc bata pa nman kmi nun and we did mistakes. pro he responded negatively. sinumbatan nya ako and to the point na sinabhan nya ako ganyan ka nman tlga wala ka naaalala. i thought i was healed pro nun nakausap ko sya with his anger mood and voice, bumalik lahat ng pain and memories na akala ko bumaon na sa limot. after that call i texted him and apologized for the childish things i did to him. toxic tlga kmi. then i realized kaya siguro nandun prn kmi sa stage na yun dahil wala kami closure when we parted ways.

卂尺ㄥ乇ㄚ :

I N D E E D

hurlin_0628 :

how will you know ba if you completely moved on?