@a.lyesha: Some people act like being autistic is shameful and a cr!me. I’ve a lot of thoughts about this and the tt is very long so I’m sad most people probably won’t watch it but I simply can’t condense it any more!! #actuallyautistic

Callsign: Stripes ‼️ :

i swear autism is the only disability people expect apologies for. theyd never demand apologies from any other disabled people for acting disabled but all hell breaks loose when an autistic person acts autistic

Turtle Hermit :

I have family like this. I ended up having a meltdown and my aunt and uncle said "I'm an adult, I need to act responsible".... this was during a 34 degree day, where I had to go to hospital for a hip x-ray, then a person I care for required more care from me than usual because of dementia. So I needed to vent into a safe space to try and stop myself from melting down and they just didn't like hearing what I had to say.

Hannah Frost :

Also whilst there’s strategies that can prevent or at least reduce the frequency of public meltdowns it doesn’t mean we have access to the support to learn this. Especially for late diagnosed people but lack of support probably applies to the whole autistic population. I tend to shutdown now in public but I used to have massive meltdowns with family/at school/on holiday.

Mary Jane 🇬🇧 :

I will always say intention matters. if anyone does something harmful but the harm was an accident people should get over it and understand their response is their problem. it is only problematic when people are being spiteful, vindictive and malicious.

Blizzy🥷🏿 :

Now I suffer in silence and stay far away from people and isolate myself from people because of this

ringworm42 :

from the first second i knew what video motivated you to talk abt this topic but yeah i agree

storm 🍓 :

yeah i had a friend like that. dropped them and now they're telling everyone i "pulled the ableism card" LMAO embarrassing for them

bibianalovesJacqueline :

Emissary of Wind :

Nobody ever explains what they mean by "accountability" either. Like, okay, what do you want me to do?

Supasaz :

schools and their behaviour policies

Quirky🩷🇩🇰 :

lost a friend recently cause they'd cancelled plans last minute (1/3 through the hangout) and they expected me to take accountability to not have a meltdown and become upset

Nya/Nick {Sebastian’s partner} :

And then they never explain what you need to do to take accountability anyway so 😭 its just bullying

Donna’s Reset :

I had a meltdown at work after being provoked and ended up getting disciplined for it and told it was not acceptable

PuffyRainbowCloud :

when i was inpatient last time, they kept tellong me i needed to take responsibility for myself when i told them that i can't survive on my own. i can't tale care of myself, at all, and they just wouldn't listen.

Queen Of Revelations :

I lost patience when my MIL who had attended the same autism parenting course as me years earlier, got angry at my 9 year old daughter for managing her overwhelm in a way that didn't affect anyone else. We were at a very busy nunners play.

Robyn Finlayson :

My boss put in a HR claim against me for my need for direct communication and not picking up on every implied message when it’s literally in my reasonable adjustments. The outcome from the whole process was that they couldn’t discipline of course but they’ve made it clear that I need to work to make everyone else comfortable

𓄂𓆃ʳᵃⁱˢⁱⁿᵍˡⁱᵒⁿˢ ᵗᵛ :

Ive managed after being forced to not show feelings to control my external meltdowns by regulating my energy in different ways. and it helped me to stay out of trouble alot and people always viewed me as a lost cause like impossible to manage. i rather mask than being locked in n torr tur ed by the sys tem

★hae★ :

i got told by one of my ex friends that she doesn’t have to deal with my autism and the way i view things. is that wrong? it feels wrong

Giraffe14 :

It depends on the level of autism and the age of the person.

YLFPssshmokeyy🏳️‍⚧️🍉 :

some people think autistic person being annoying or not able to do certain things is on the same level as an autistic person being violent or a bad person. They think inconveniencing them is truly the worst thing you can do and some still autism in general as a moral failing. Also some people just want an excuse to abuse autistic people.

Live_Life_Laughing :

Had someone like that once. Kept pushing the issue and wouldn't give me space and time. Told him he needed to stop and give me space and time, or things would get violent. Didn't want to be, but he kept pushing the issue and told me I was acting. It ended with him on his back in the men's toilet. Cleaner found him. Apparently, he didn't want to talk about what happened.

transemoartist :

like if i’m communicating my needs and what happens if you don’t give me that space, how the fuck is it my fault if you push it and i have a meltdown? i don’t like having them, let alone in front of others, they’re not fun, but if im trying to get my needs met and you refuse to let that happen? that meltdown is on you. i know my needs, i know how to advocate for my needs, and i will do so. but anything beyond a goddamn SMOKE BREAK is apparently “unacceptable”. no. fuck that. if i need 15 minutes to process things, or 2 hours, 2 days - however fucking long - i need that time. and if you don’t let me have that time and my nervous system isn’t regulated, i’m going to be acting like someone with an unregulated nervous system! and the closer i get to that or the worse it gets, the longer it takes for me to get out of that. if people just give me those 5-10 minutes when i FIRST FUCKING ASK then it only takes 5-10 minutes! i can calm down in that time and process a bit so i can avoid a meltdown! but NOOOOO i need to “take responsibility” (me advocating for my needs to try and prevent a meltdown IS me taking responsibility, thanks, as im recognising my own struggles and trying to deal with it) and just…not have one. instead of having 5 minutes to not have one, i need to magically not! sorry karen, my brain isn’t wired like that! i’m taking 5 or one of us is gonna start screaming. one of us (probably me) will end up injured. fuck, if you need to be selfish about that, it’s less faff to just let me have 5 fucking minutes, maybe 10 or 15 if i need a coffee and a cig. grab a fucking drink or a fucking snack and it’ll be fine! JUST GIMME THE SPACE TO NOT HAVE A MELTDOWN!!

Queenie 🎪 :

I hate the fact they primarily attack neurological disabilities. It's never "We should hold wheelchair users accountable for not being able to walk" (and I don't mean ambulatory of course). It's never "We should hold fully blind people accountable for bumping into me because I was in their way". I feel like this flavor of eugenics simply doesn't believe neurological disorders exist.