@vanessaandxander: As a socks therapist, want to know how often I'm actually in the mood when I initiate with Xander? About 20-25% of the time. 👀 But our socks life has never been better! Here's the myth that's sabotaging most couples: that you're both supposed to want it at the exact same time. That expectation alone kills more connection than almost anything else. Your socks life will be SO much better when you realize: There are so many great reasons to initiate other than just being 📣 - y. Here are a few of mine: ✨ I want to feel pleasure ✨ I want to feel close to Xander ✨ I value socks as part of a healthy relationship ✨ I need stress relief ✨ I want to play and have fun ✨ I know I’ll get more into it once we start Once I realized this, I stopped asking "am I in the mood right now?" and started asking "am I open to connecting with him? That simple mindset shift? Game-changing. 🔥

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lucia Matas Lopez :

that gives so much perspective. I am thankfully for people that talk about this topic and normalising it. thank you ❤️

2026-07-03 17:25:03

Karen Holloway :

So true

2026-07-05 05:05:47

~Fåtïmå~ :

Stay single gotta lot more love

2026-07-04 23:00:57

Gaz Gladman :

in other words, stop with the excuses??

2026-07-03 18:26:35

Imnindigo44 :

I am a father of three, with a wife with adhd who is undergoing a surrogacy. There are other reasons to not engage in sex. And they matter

2026-07-04 06:43:08

Всєвладъ Бѣлохърватъ :

unironically this mindset would fix 90% of relationships with sex problems

2026-07-09 05:53:23

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