@scott.austin.martin: Most people think they're unhappy because they're in the wrong relationship. Sometimes that's true. But more often, they're trapped in limbo. They can't repair because they can't put down the contempt. They can't put down the contempt because the same boundaries keep getting crossed. Too exhausted to have another conversation. Too burned out to leave. Maybe there are kids. Maybe it's money. Maybe it's family expectations. So they stay. Not thriving. Not leaving. Just surviving. Limbo is not a neutral place. Every day you stay there, your nervous system starts believing survival is normal. If you can't change the relationship today, change your relationship with yourself today. Stop abandoning your own boundaries. Start rebuilding your own capacity. Build a life that reminds your nervous system what safety, dignity, and peace feel like. You don't have to decide your entire future today. But you do have to stop making survival your permanent address. #relationships #nervoussystem #menscoach #relationshipadvice
Its hard to do if you never had safety, peace and comfort for the nervous system to relax.
2026-07-03 22:56:22
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Bretagne MacLaithimh :
I don’t understand how to make boundaries while still stuck in the cycle of not being able to fix anything because my spouse refuses to
2026-07-04 01:29:28
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Lstnkdo :
i dont even know what that even feels like or how do i even start, i dont know how...maybe i dont even know who I am...its terrible
2026-07-04 22:56:29
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user962916848 :
In the presence of contempt repair is highly unlikely
2026-07-04 03:24:48
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S C :
I needed to hear this today. Thank you 🙏
2026-07-04 15:11:36
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🪽KINGTRUMP🪽GODS CHOSEN :
Soooooo
2026-07-06 14:47:38
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cdog :
How do you stop living in survival if you stay in the same situation?
2026-07-05 18:43:19
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Kesha Ames :
That’s exactly what I’m doing
2026-07-08 18:57:25
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Tyra Williams :
How do I stop living in survival mode?
2026-07-06 07:25:29
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@debbieboop2 :
Wow this is me…
2026-07-06 02:53:03
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woodenboatgirl :
we’re all trying to survive
2026-07-04 14:18:24
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wellssphrit :
Woo I had to do exactly this
2026-07-04 09:00:24
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James Gabbert Jr. :
Great message for reflection. Thank you.
2026-07-03 21:53:55
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sunnylous_pov :
I like this!
2026-07-04 13:30:14
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Diane :
There is no unilateral repair in toxic relationships. I had to completely remove myself from the abusive behavior so I can live & love the way I was created to. Limbo was the absolute worst part of my marriage. I felt like I was carrying around a 200 lb corpse. Even the life events that should have been celebrated were met with little to no positive emotion. I feel so much grief for the life he chose over his beautiful family. Hasn’t even seen his grandchildren in over a year, not even a Christmas card for them. It’s very difficult to explain to a 5 year old child. Thank the good Lord my grandchildren have such amazing parents and others who would never abandon them. I gave him all of his money just to get away from the ongoing disrespect, & then he asked for more. This is a man who is a high wage earner, trained to argue a case, in a powerful, highly respected job where people want to be around him just for the social gain. He could not come home and be a husband, I was to praise him or shut up. I tried marital counseling for 13 years until I recognized that was doing more damage to me than good. I have everything I need but the grief is very real. I feel sorrow for him. I’m trying to take that emotion and give it to myself. God has truly held me through some very dark times. 🙏❤️
2026-07-04 21:53:37
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Josette_🥰 :
🎯 🎯🎯🎯🎯
2026-07-08 23:31:58
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Bryan Clark :
💙💙
2026-07-05 19:27:14
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2026-07-16 15:35:03
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2026-07-16 15:35:03
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