@phoenixpathway: His Inconsistency Is Designed To Keep You Seated The unpredictable good moments are not the truth of him breaking through the noise. They are the trap holding you in place. If he were consistently cold you would leave. He provides just enough warmth right as you begin to pull back to ensure you stay for the next cycle. The real him is the entire pattern of absence and occasional affection. #relationshipadvice #datingtipsforwomen #feminineenergy #knowyourworth

Crystal🇨🇦 :

The minute I feel unstable in my footing I choose a different path.

blindboneslee :

Finally sat with my discomfort until it became a disinterest in lack of consistency.

nomorechicken :

So accurate. They find joy in keeping you wrong-footed

user3120915514726 :

I have to fucking leave and I am struggling!!!!!!!

Christy Stitches Pt.2 :

Heavy on “He’s the pattern not the parts”

Kristen :

What’s the equivalent of this thing to give back to them? If we’re stuck waiting for the good them to come back what would they be holding on to us to keep getting or waiting for us to be again? Just trying to understand the dynamics. You’re so right and pointing it out helps tremendously but I have to keep remembering that what I would do or how I see their perspective as is still from a me viewpoint and that keeps me stuck a lot.

Camilleperds :

It’s really interesting to me a person could be this calculated though, are you saying that these are conscious decisions to go “hot and cold” to PURPOSELY keep us hooked?

Lisa Perry :

I pulled up my seat for this. Your ability to put words to patterns are remarkable ⚡

pamelalay72 :

You are absolutely right

aliengr0wth :

needed this right about now thank you

KI’LANO MONAE 🎀🫧 :

Okay hold my hand next time, this just woke me up.

carla smada :

I was JUST talking to someone about this...there's a huge difference between relational ambiguity and mystery. I feel mystery is something that doesn't keep you questioning the dynamic and invites you to inquire more about an individual. Ambiguity stifles a relationship and leaves someone confused about where they stand. We have got to learn to stop projecting our own qualities and morals onto others without proof that's who they really are.

Kelly :

Perfectly stated. I’ve dealt with this for 36 years and it’s something I’m embarrassed of not proud. The last eight or so I’ve realized i now feel nothing but resentment and regret right at the time my health and life imploded making it near impossible to leave or move on. Go figure.😒🫩

mindy :

🤍the pattern not the parts.......

Kayla Justin :

Oh you clocked it

Mags :

Wow yes!!!

✨✌🏼💖 TByrd’s.World :

Oh this is a goooood one 👌🏻

_nichole_johnson :

The good moments are keeping you seated 😞 - so that leaving never feels more obvious than staying 🙏 so well said

SAV :

I literally needed this. LITERALLY. Thank you 🙏🏼

Rita Brooks970 :

Do they even realize that they are doing this? Is it intentional?

doeeatsworld :

Caroline :

We’re dealing with patterns, not people.

Marley Burns :

lol I that's not what's happening though 😂😂

Jess-A-Sunny-Day :

You are profoundly always directly on target 🎯 !