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Adelaide (Addie) :
I think this goes for any major relationships during adolescence as well - like teenage years / early adolescence - before the abused persons brain is anywhere close to having a secure sense of self / understanding of what treatment is acceptable
2026-08-22 05:56:23
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STEVi_P_ :
I have an uncanny ability to be completely calm in extremely fkd up situations, yet in benign, mundane daily situations I’m often rattled lol
2026-07-06 00:14:46
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wastingurhonor :
I want to add a caveat. It’s not that we normalized it. Our brain created all of our neurons while being traumatized. We don’t have the brain pathways to function differently without being taught another way.
2026-07-05 07:00:57
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Turbo Mitzvah :
you are ROCKING that bob truly
2026-07-05 03:04:15
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Ashley :
Also, your brain literally gets addicted to the high adrenaline, cortisol, etc. so even when we do make the right decision to leave chaotic environments or make healthy changes, it can cause so much anxiety and make you feel like you made the wrong decision because of how unfamiliar peace is for your brain + nervous system 🫠
2026-07-06 00:47:36
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Mary :
That’s the part that is so frustrating for me. I have to do the work to heal and fix myself when it wasn’t even my fault that I have all this trauma. Yet it’s my responsibility to fix it.
2026-07-05 14:43:52
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ACain47 :
Algorithm got rhythm
2026-07-05 01:11:31
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adhdinnyc :
I would also get away from people who don’t get it or judge you. Like ok you don’t have to understand completely but you can learn to empathize if you care.
2026-07-05 22:46:18
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Delasuerte :
It’s so extremely hard while trying to fix your nervous system while being exposed to very very toxic family members
2026-07-27 12:43:08
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janemcart :
It's familiar to your nervous system. You’ve been there before.
2026-07-04 23:18:50
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jaydamay 👸🏽 :
I literally don’t judge anyone who stays in toxic relationships . the only reason why I’m so quick to leave is bc I force myself to , my instinct is to stay .
2026-07-07 00:08:26
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dreamsandbones :
THANK YOU. I’ve been ruminating on this concept lately.
2026-07-05 02:44:02
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dark.mabon :
Took me decades, now I run a tight ship. I’m proud of myself for that much.
2026-07-07 14:02:22
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.saakamalik :
‘You’re too nice’ like no lol, I literally have been conditioned to deal with this in order to perform lol
2026-07-06 16:25:06
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azulosah :
childhood really shapes your whole adulthood. i would say especially between 6-10 years old. those memories stay forver
2026-07-05 22:00:18
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User09284074 :
Is this why as a healed person it’s impossible for me to interact with my parents in any meaningful way
2026-07-07 17:50:08
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ayla :
why did this have the opposite effect on me? I refuse to tolerate any disrespect now
2026-07-08 16:48:05
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johnnick7316 :
sorry girl I think I am too traumatized to understand all that quantum physics
2026-07-05 16:49:10
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user1657395532225 :
When chaos is your baseline, it just feels normal & anything else is what feels abnormal
2026-07-05 12:25:05
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jezza_bellend :
THIS!! "Why didn't you leave?" because I literally did not know that was an option, I wasn't modelled healthy love so literally did not know what to even look for!
2026-07-07 07:13:03
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💗 Renée 💗 :
Trauma therapist here. This is excellent content 👏🏼
2026-07-05 00:52:07
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Benny911 :
My friend who is 28 is sad bc his parents bought a new house and now no longer live ten minutes away from him. WHAAATTTT???
2026-07-07 14:31:57
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ariana_birdie :
hey, so this was the most emotionally, intelligent and eloquent to take you explain this beautifully
2026-07-05 22:25:06
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xtendedlife :
goodness girl, you are a classic beauty!
2026-07-05 03:35:16
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