@neurospicywitchygroomer: One of the hardest lessons I learned in healing was realizing that some people don’t want connection. They want access. Access to your energy. Your kindness. Your loyalty. Your resources. Your emotional labor. And the second you develop boundaries, the mask slips. Suddenly you’re the villain. Suddenly you’re “toxic.” Suddenly you’re being accused of the very things they were doing to you all along. That’s the thing about DARVO. If you listen closely, every accusation is usually a confession. The people meant for you won’t punish you for healing. They won’t punish you for boundaries. And they definitely won’t need a smear campaign when they lose access to you. Being quiet doesn’t protect you. It protects the abuser. #FeralCertified #DARVO #NarcissisticAbuse #ShadowWork #HealingJourney
The first time someone responds to a disagreement with DARVO and starts attacking you over things you never said or did, believe them. That’s how they handle conflict. Cut them off immediately.
2026-07-06 21:16:11
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GoddessofQueensMusic :
What is DARVO?
2026-07-05 22:43:21
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emeraldgoddessxo :
Yes. They “check in” frequently but never actually reciprocate the connection
2026-07-23 04:29:22
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Zee :
Because instead of doing all that, they could’ve just left me tf alone!
2026-07-06 07:53:51
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Rotondwa Tshivhase :
Hear me out, “siblings too”
2026-07-07 05:51:21
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PurpleShampoo :
I remember once someone told me…people can be jealous about the most simplest things…hair, personality, sense of humor. Not even big things
2026-07-06 01:23:56
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Richa Sharma :
It’s unreal, I said this to someone pretending to care about me, “you created intimacy so I could trust you and then take something from me.” I would highly recommend listening to people’s energy than their words. Like how relaxed/tensed your body feels around them, even if they’re saying the kindest words like ‘hey how are feeling”
2026-07-05 18:33:50
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Earth_Magick_Witchery :
This has been my entire life.
2026-07-05 14:34:12
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ninja bu :
that sis why I cut off evry person from my life and I never been more rested and relaxed in my life
2026-07-06 22:04:14
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unbothered_nini :
They never cared, there were just curious
2026-07-06 19:28:00
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Madein🇨🇦1969 :
Took me until my FIFTIES, so grateful to be here.
2026-07-06 00:18:08
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Lady Grey 🇨🇦 ❌ :
my trauma was a lesson to never trust the surface
2026-07-05 19:08:18
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coolusernamerr :
This is why I am not fake with anyone 😂 sorry I’m not hiding how I feel about you. Litrally hard for me to be fake 😭 my husband tells me to do it sometimes just to not hurt anyone’s feelings but ugh
2026-07-05 18:16:10
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Username :
And the entitlement is insane! I have just been through this. It was brutal. But also very necessary. Thank you for the validation and putting it into words. Very powerful words ♥️
2026-07-05 14:47:20
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e.ruth :
my WHOLE family..now third parties are reaching out to stir the pot, assuming the worst. it HURTS. this is healing 😫😫😫
2026-07-06 13:34:45
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Giuls Carella :
We are on such similar paths 😭😭😭
2026-07-05 19:29:50
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ℓυυυ..❄️🌀 :
I knew therе had to be ѕomе truth behіnd what The Secret Life Formula waѕ saying, nоw I’m mоre сonvіnced of that than ever.
2026-07-07 09:24:24
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tati :
Transactional relationships
2026-07-06 03:49:32
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Dinahmyte 🌒🌕🌘 :
Ugh when the dots connect. 😏 Sigh
2026-07-05 13:24:55
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TruthByDesi 💜 My Story 🇳🇴💜 :
when you start to understand and see it for what it is. it changes the reality. It makes place to heal in a deeper level.
2026-07-05 18:38:12
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chatty 🦜🌈 :
once you realise what is happening, they tell on themselves constantly
2026-07-06 12:10:46
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Yusra 🦋 :
YES THIS!!!!!! I was so mentally effed up for months after this realization
2026-07-05 21:47:23
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… :
They keep saying they are so busy. So busy to even give me a call for months. No one is that busy
2026-07-06 19:17:06
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lexywalsh4 :
Butttt I’m confused bc they wore a mask in front of their family too 😭
2026-07-06 02:22:46
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cris.yanna :
I hate that it usually takes me weeks or months to realize someone intentionally mistreated me. I hate that I never know how to react instantly. Instead, I freeze or gaslight myself into thinking I’m just being too sensitive. Because my brain has a delayed reaction, it always looks like I'm getting mad for no reason later on.
2026-07-06 20:42:24
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