@thepottymouthguru: Most relationship conflicts aren't made worse by what we know. They're made worse by what we're convinced we know. The moment we stop asking questions, we start filling in the blanks. Sometimes we fill them with old hurts. Sometimes with fear. Sometimes with shame. Sometimes with stories we've carried for years. And once we've decided we know someone's motives, it's surprisingly hard to hear what they're actually trying to say. Emotionally healthy relationships leave room to be surprised. They replace assumptions with curiosity and certainty with conversation. People generally feel safer when they're asked who they are than when they're told who they are. ❤️🤟🏻🌿 #UNFUCKYOURSELF #THEPOTTYMOUTHGURU #HealthyCommunication #Relationships #AttachmentHealin
I told my dad I didnt feel heard or cared about in his home and his response was to scream in my face: "YOU ARE LOVED HERE!!!"
2026-07-05 22:27:06
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Tracker :
Assumptions at the core of this.
2026-07-05 17:12:51
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CharlieDoingCharlieStuff :
this is explicitly why i left my last relationship
2026-07-06 19:30:13
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The Pottymouth Guru :
Assumptions often feel like certainty. Curiosity is what gives the other person a chance to surprise you. That's where understanding begins. ❤️🤟🏻
2026-07-05 17:07:45
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greyrockai :
the "i already know why you did it" thing. once your brain fills that blank it won't let new info in. i do this and don't even catch it till later
2026-07-06 02:31:40
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Xx.Chlobi.xX :
oh man, reading back on a piece written about me has a whole rainbow of these different tactics 🤣 loved this series!
2026-07-05 21:06:20
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🏳️🌈Bec0611🏳️🌈 :
I've experienced these examples coming from the person who originally brought up the issue. It would happen after I apologized and validated her feelings. I acknowledge that I didn't sit with her feelings long enough before offering my perspective (I'm working on improving this in myself). But after my genuine apology (often multiple apologies), she would start assigning motives and meanings to my actions or words, and making assumptions about how things were going to play out.
2026-07-05 18:39:23
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Sister Hazel :
is there a difference between "i will never good enough" and "i FEEL like i will never be good enough?"
2026-07-06 23:34:04
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ThisIsMe :
Oops, I've done the trauma one. Thought I was being insightful. Think you're right though... I gotta try n be more curious.
2026-07-05 20:14:28
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sofie :
You and Ebba Busch look alike a lot
2026-07-06 10:40:04
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vita.radzina :
If they don’t unsver ?
2026-07-06 13:49:18
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The Creative Chaos Gremlin :
gosh, I also think this needed a trigger warning is been a long time since I lived it a household that stoke like this, so grateful I learnt to heal and emotionally grow
2026-07-06 11:14:31
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Naw Lin Hlyan Thoo❤️❤️ :
😭
2026-07-06 01:10:13
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