Ivorie, LCSW
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spoooooon :
no one talks about the exhaustion of living with someone who would rather weaponize communication than just have a conversation.
2026-07-06 18:13:21
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Coco Jo :
It’s not about being a mind reader. It’s about him looking around his own house and noticing what needs to be done.
2026-07-06 11:19:24
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Alejandro Romero Gue :
Living with someone that its constantly looking for reason to be unhappy must be really exhausting
2026-07-07 15:30:34
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Candice Pendley Bron :
My love language is “takes initiative”
2026-07-06 12:29:06
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Davante :
Yall missing the whole point. Two people can have two completely different thresholds or tolerances to the same thing. What’s mess to you may not be mess to someone else. 5-6 dishes in the sink , half full garbage and some papers on the counter might constitute as a “obvious mess” in your eyes but might be something way less significant to someone else. So yeah communication is key. And yeah do a list/orentaion one time so it’s all in the open especially if you notice it’s a reoccurring issue. Your partner has there own background, life, interests, hobbies, etc you don’t know how someone sees anything. Yall keep saying does your job have to tell you want to do. And it’s like NO they don’t because on the application and in the interview they told me what was to be expected of me. My first few days/weeks of work they guided me and again reinforced the expectations they so clearly communicated to me early in the process. So 6 months from now I know exactly what to do and how to do. Yall really just want someone to read yall mind. If if for my whole life I washed dishes at the end of the day or took the trash out at the end of the day or even I only cleared the table off and sweep one a day regardless. And you were raised to clean up every little mess as you went along. Why would think that I would magically start sweeping all through the day. No that would take so communication for me to see a small mess and clean vs just waiting to do it all at once. And if someone doesn’t understand that or thinks that there partner should read there mind and notice what they notice and feel how they feel then maybe instead of complaining just do it yourself since you have the problem with it. It’s hell of shot yall just don’t notice and do. Don’t see to many women just throwing panties at they husband like yall ain’t notice that point in his pants.
2026-07-15 14:15:55
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Smileitsmeagain :
My husband once said I’ll do anything you ask me to do, and I said why do I have to instruct you like one of our kids when you clearly have eyes that see the same mess I do.
2026-07-07 00:54:22
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Patrick Anderson :
Translation: I have poor communication skills with my husband.
2026-07-06 08:46:59
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marie_kindly :
It’s crazy all of these “I’m not a mind reader” comments bc we’re not mind readers either but still get things done without having someone tells us. The point is, is that it’s exhausting to not only manage ourselves but our partners who live in the same house.
2026-07-06 18:25:44
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lawzofdetachment :
Sometimes you have to delay the response and let it marinate.
2026-07-15 15:22:49
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Mike No Medz💊 :
making nothing into something
2026-07-06 12:27:29
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MP :
Talk to him about it not us
2026-07-15 16:45:39
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_thestoryplanner :
It’s the ppl who saying “just ask” they have no idea lol
2026-07-06 12:20:28
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Diana ♡ :
me when he asks me," what can I help with?" ... LIKE LOOK AROUNDDDDD
2026-07-06 21:33:02
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BigRed369 :
He deserves better
2026-07-07 07:53:43
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Siren Elyse :
Constantly reminding him I’m not his mother and to use his gamer eyes to look for something
2026-07-06 06:16:55
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issac 🧛🏾 :
What y’all fail to realize is everyone doesn’t perceive things the same way, what you may think needs to be done at that moment doesn’t apply to someone else who may think it’ll be ready the next day.
2026-07-08 14:44:53
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Sophia :
If I have to tell you to do it, then I’m now doing part of the task for you. Part of doing a task is remembering to do it.
2026-07-06 21:09:59
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Blank :
this does sound exhausting. to do everything you're being asked and still being blamed
2026-07-08 09:53:44
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Karena Keller :
These comments are not it. As someone whos husband doesnt move unless I ask him to (most of the time) it IS exhausting. If you notice the house is a mess, the dishes are dirty, laundry needs to be done, etc, I shouldn't have to constantly ask you to help clean up or do something. Husband lives there too, he sees the mess. Asking over and over again gets draining.
2026-07-06 14:00:54
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pt :
Should have married Dr Strange so he can read your mind.
2026-07-06 12:50:04
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J. :
Guys, what she’s saying is that she’d like for him to take more initiative with noticing things. She’s not asking for him to mind read. I agree, people always depending on you to make the calls can get exhausting.
2026-07-06 21:36:55
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bigbuddysnacksalot :
The divorce came out of nowhere
2026-07-06 12:36:11
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darkness25 :
hope he finds someone who will appreciate the fact he'd do anything for them
2026-07-07 00:18:27
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