Exactly! When I’m in full meltdown mode I don’t need soft. It reads as pity and/or condescension to me in the moment. Still working on getting my man to understand that.
2026-07-06 18:46:48
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Steven Allen Caudle :
eh my vinalla wife prefers option 2 and skipping go lol
2026-07-06 15:25:52
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Princess🧸🎵🌸 :
Ok now I see why it's funny😭
2026-07-06 17:41:43
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Yorkie🧡Yank💛 :
I pick the impact every time. then just dont talk to me. give me my me time. haha
2026-07-06 16:12:43
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Cupofviolets :
Both, both will do😅
2026-07-06 17:35:59
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lindsey :
I never even had the vanilla version in a vanilla relationship 😭😭
2026-07-06 15:05:57
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Lunar Aries :
that will, in fact, do it😂
2026-07-06 16:40:43
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TheaNikolova :
I would shut down all emotions in such relationship 🙂 Like go full robot mode instantly
2026-07-06 18:49:08
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🍸ayo 𖣂 :
i think i am early too
2026-07-06 14:35:51
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Maija💌 :
wait wait wait what’s a paddle 🥲
2026-07-06 22:41:53
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natty.lew1 :
That’ll do 🤣
2026-07-06 18:12:28
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Emmy :
Crazyyy
2026-07-06 14:37:38
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🖤 Pinky Marie💜 :
facts that hit it right on the nail lol.
2026-07-07 00:51:28
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﹕ ꒰ა 𝘗𝘶𝘱𝘻 .ᐟ ֹ ₊ :
THIS😭
2026-07-06 14:38:54
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honeybunz$ :
U like cowboy bebop too?
2026-07-06 17:15:28
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Arthur Wren :
EFFICIENT
2026-07-06 18:49:08
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Secretaccountforsecretthings :
Being grounded is a brat is something DIFFERENT, it’s like…. Your entire nervous system just says “yep, let go of it all, life is easy right now”
2026-07-06 14:37:38
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Gabs :
Nothing makes you centered more then pain- it’s actually kinda nice to be forced to think about ONE thing for once
2026-07-06 21:19:18
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blueshrimp :
I need someone, who can make me do the boring stuff, who can ground me and my psyhe. In some days i can feel all my hairs. ALL OF THEM.
2026-07-06 15:23:09
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UNSC SpartanN23 🏳️⚧️ :
🤣 I think I need this instead of a “vanilla relationship”. I need the structure I got that ‘tsm.
2026-07-06 15:12:37
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Pup Squirrel(He/They) :
How about a mix? Option 2 and then cuddles and talking about it/venting if needed
2026-07-06 18:22:18
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Peppy :
I have a genuine query, and you seem like a good educator for these types of things...
I always thought this culture was super interesting, and it draws me in, but at the same time It freaks me out when I think about engaging in it with someone. Like, the idea of it is like, a dream, but I also know that realistically I don't really know if I could handle it, I dearly wish I could, I very much wish I could handle it, but I am aware that I'm not the type of person to actually engage in a culture like this, so I just watched videos like this from the sidelines a lot, knowing I most likely will never experience something like this, no matter how much I want to.
Do you know of anybody who's experienced stuff like this? or do ANY of you have any wise words of wisdom for me on this subject?
2026-07-07 02:44:50
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