@scott.austin.martin: Repair requires ownership, containment, and changed behavior. But repair is rarely possible in the presence of contempt. Contempt is the overflow of years of unresolved resentment. Every boundary that stayed crossed. Every conversation that went nowhere. Every moment someone felt unseen, unheard, or alone. Eventually resentment hardens into contempt — and contempt stops looking for connection. It starts looking for evidence. At that point, apologies don't land because the nervous system no longer trusts them. Two things have to happen: the environment has to become different enough that safety can begin returning, and the resentment has to be processed instead of continuously collected. If neither of those things is happening — what exactly are you waiting for? Time doesn't heal resentment. It usually compounds it. If you're not changing the environment or healing the resentment, you're not preserving the relationship. You're preservingnervoussystem #menscoach #relationships #nervoussystem #relationshipadvice

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