xoxo, cj •relationship burnout
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Júlia Sala :
I wasn't aware I wasn't loving her the way she needed and I lost her. Such a beautiful soul that slipped away from me and I couldn't even see it. I just hope she ever finds the love that she needs.
2026-07-06 19:46:02
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cassia (cat) :
Heavy on the “or years” 😭😭😭
2026-07-06 23:04:52
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Andrea :
Ok but the problem is now that I’m burnt out and can’t keep carrying everything, I’m the problem and I’m “neglecting” my partners emotions and needs and I’m the bad guy…
2026-07-08 05:19:58
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Blessed, Boots and Baits :
Yep. I've just separated. I told him I love him and I needed to do it now before I started to resent and hate him
2026-07-07 12:35:52
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amihunt78 :
thank you for validating me. 🖤
2026-07-07 18:16:41
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edamameandlemonade :
Hey! My partner and I decided to take a break for one month and after that we are reconnecting. How should the first conversation we have look like? It still looks like we’re dating on social media, we have each others location still etc. he said he wants to start on a “clean slate” after I’ve taken space to heal. But I’m scared.
2026-07-08 20:40:24
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♡ :
this is my exact situation only that when I mentioned leaving he did the same thing of saying he'll be more consistent and initiate things. I told him okay I'll see if you mean it but I'm not sure what to do now
2026-07-08 20:30:00
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privacyfirstprivateaccount :
Thank you for all you do. You are really helped me understand my fiancé and why she asked for a separation and we are moving forward doing our work individually. It has helped hearing from somebody who’s been in shoes similar to hers has helped me realize what’s going on.
2026-07-06 19:37:05
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jkoerner128 :
I actually can’t believe how I have watched this play out in real time after finding your page as I was the BOP in stage 3 moving into stage 4. After finding out about an addiction and lying to cover it up, I said I was done (after 17 years) and asked him to leave, and he panicked and 3 weeks later is now doing *everything* I asked him to do for so many years! Being everything I asked him to be. But the final straw of finding out I was lied to on top of being a BOP has added a new layer I don’t understand. I’ve disconnected completely from him now and although he is smothering me with love, I feel suffocated and like it’s something else entirely now. Is BOP something on its own, but changes when adding another layer of marital issues? Because now I feel like I can’t relate as much to this stage. Except he is doing 100% of what the partner does during this stage. Panicking and trying so hard. And I am numb to it.
2026-07-07 01:20:16
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keisha :
he told me he doesn't want me to stay in a relationship where he doesn't love me. he won't run back to me and he doesn't want that kind of relationship. i don't know what else i can do aside from giving him space and focusing on myself. i want to be with him and i don't mind pursuing or courting him. it's been a month since we broke up and i've been going through therapy
2026-07-07 01:18:19
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xandi :
I know there’s no magic number…but does anyone know statistically how long it takes them to turn around and be open again? Open to seeing ur growth. Open to letting their guard down? It’s probably a stupid question but I’m desperate for some hope
2026-07-07 13:57:48
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Hollbrier :
He said it, I granted him his space, we are still together but now i feel unloved and lonely and it’s been a while, now i feel like do i stay or go because my mental health is getting worse and im not happy anymore it’s just a long waiting game 😢
2026-07-07 06:14:32
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ravenfan :
we have been on a break for 6 weeks and he keeps going back and forth on I want to work it out and I'm ready to give up, I don't know what to do anymore 😭 I can't show him change if he is shut down and won't even talk. last talk he was open to trying a hang out. what do I do?
2026-07-07 20:32:39
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Claws for Concern 💅 :
I’ve been dying to ask you for a hair tutorial- would you mind sharing what products you use?
2026-07-07 00:08:19
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Rec-Spectra_VT :
This is exactly what I ended up saying. But I got made this horrible person who doesn’t care
2026-07-07 17:22:06
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Shelby S. :
Ugh what a hard truth but like sooo needed right now. Thank you for your videos
2026-07-07 13:32:03
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Refil :
nah it's just avoidant anxiety
2026-07-07 07:35:50
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keisha :
is it not possible for me to love myself and him as well? he doesn't need to give me much effort like before—i can love "us." would it be okay if i ask to court/pursue him after a month or do i wait a few more?
2026-07-07 01:16:50
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Stephanie Spencer♥️🇺🇸 :
Yess.. he got so burned out and left and finally reached out and wants us to work things out but said I have to change before he comes back and won’t move back in for at least a year.. he is showing up still for me but it looks so different the texting isn’t al the time he is a little distant it’s just different right now and it hurts and sucks so bad
2026-07-07 14:03:38
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Sierriz :
this is what i lit feel rn gawdd
2026-07-09 07:55:21
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Melodey :
So many times they've heard the promises before just for them to be empty.
2026-07-09 06:17:19
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mchrgal :
We did 2mo separated and now we are 2 months back home but he is STILL ambivalent… He sees my changes, we are both in therapy. He keeps overthinking and as you said he doesn’t have the capacity to put much effort for me. He says he doesn’t have as much desire for me but I honestly feel there must be something blocking him because I feel when you love someone desire can be rekindled. How long isn’t too long to still be ambivalent? I stopped carrying all the load because I’m doing everything and he’s just not in the mood to rebuild…
2026-07-09 08:15:17
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Tyler VanEps :
Suddenly were the one with one foot out the door
2026-07-09 12:47:04
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