@streetlighteyesdontdie: I am not surprised that women choose douchebags.

Southwest :

You can be a good guy and not seek approval. Also being respectful and making sure people feel safe is not seeking approval.

Misty :

Authenticity is attractive.

~LunaMoth~ :

you're both, extremely pretty and wisdomous🖤

strelly dakky :

what if (hypothetically) you do good for the sake of good and not for someone's approval, because this is possible. i don't think good guy is synonymous with people pleaser. also I disagree with the idea that "douchebags" are authentic because in my experience they hide those traits until she's already attached and it's harder to leave

Amber 🗡️🥀 :

The “good guys” are usually mommas boys who are insecure af and that’s not attractive.

caryatidsusan :

You are so spot on every time. 👏🏼👏🏼

The Sales Jedi :

Eh, it's more than that to be a good guy.

𝕲𝖜𝖊𝖓𝖉𝖔𝖑𝖞𝖓 :

Wow, I love this take, thank you for sharing!

Israel Kincy :

Being yourself is attractive being kind honest in touch with all of you faults and all and yes not caring what any one thinks 😩

Kellington :

It's not even that complicated. Douche people create this sense of forbidden fruit that you know you should stay away from. As a guy i know so many friends who fell for the girl you know you should stay away from.

Raey年_ :

paradox

⊹🗝️ Noë ໒꒱*·˚ :

I think some of it can also be an attachment style and it can go into similar psychology. It’s hard to explain entirely but things like anxious attachment or maybe even avoidant, similar things to that where it stems from past experiences and / or development

doc :

my goals are mostly hedonistic and usually keep to myself and occasionally am told that I can be mean. that hasn't done anything for me

Jakexzstar :

·:*¨༺ ♱ lexi ♱ ༻¨*:· :

thank u

Beautiful.Mess :

You are literally a breath of fresh air ♥️

Phase Shift :

I don’t want goals tho. Society sucks. Theres no point. I just wanna chill and vibe and be loved. 😔

Morgan692 :

You can have a podcast

kdlf04277p :

Gotta be honest, I do not think you accurately described what is colloquially known as a douchebag. I have never met a douchebag with aspersions lol.

atrian_op :

that is not what a douchebag is

habitisagreatdeadener :

A douchebag is a confident, hard working, ambitious person that doesn’t care what people think?😭

RowanVA :

Low-key you might be onto something.